START A PETITION 27,000,000 members: the world's largest community for good

How to End a Sexual Dry Spell

How to End a Sexual Dry Spell

You could be the most delicious sex goddess on Earth and still experience the occasional dry spell. It’s just part of the natural flow of relationships, sex, and life. But sometimes it can make you feel out of practice or—depending on how long it lasts—like you’ve regained your virginity. If yours goes on a little too long, here are a few tips to get you in the saddle again.

  • Prepping your body. We’ll say it again: You’re fine just as you are. But sometimes a little beautification is the perfect ritual to get you ready for your close up. (A shocking pink snooch rarely disappoints.) Lotions, potions, shaving, waxing, whatever. It’s all about doing what makes you feel good in your skin.
  • Prepping your bedroom. Has anyone been in it lately? Is it messy? Clean it up, clear it out, and make room for another person and an orgasmic boom. It doesn’t have to be a smoldering den of sex. Simply putting fresh sheets on the bed can give you a sensual starting point.
  • Prepping your heart. Did it get broken? Did you shove it to the back of your bras and undies drawer and forget about it? Let’s fix that. If you feel heartache, vulnerability, mistrust, or nothing at all, perhaps it will help to talk. Friends and therapists have been known to work wonders. Trust us: Opening your heart again will help end the dry spell, but in order to do that you have to examine what shape it’s in and make peace with the past.
  • Prepping your mind. Has the dry spell left you feeling insecure? Are you scared to be intimate again? Are you obsessing on what the sex will be like or what they’ll think of you? Avoid negative self-talk and try not to make up stories like you’re no good in bed. Like we already said, talking to trustworthy, supportive friends or a therapist can help boost your self-esteem and get you in a more positive state of mind. When you feel grounded and calm—and your mood is in a good place—that’s when you can start to picture yourself having really fulfilling (and maybe frequent) sex again.
  • Prepping your punani. Before you do it, now is a good time to get tested for STIs, make sure you’ve got condoms on hand (and that they’re not expired), and have your well woman’s visit with your gyno if you’re due.

And if you’re in the middle of a dry spell, please remember that you don’t have to go without. This is actually a great time to explore what turns you on. Just don’t bail on your birth control. You never know when you’ll wind up in bed with someone, so it’s smart to be prepared by staying on your method.

Related Articles
Sex On The First Date?
Delicious Aphrodisiacs For More Exciting Sex
In Search of The G-Spot

Read more: Dating, Gynecology, Love, Relationships, Sex, Uncategorized, Women's Health,

Originally published on

have you shared this story yet?

go ahead, give it a little love


Everyone should have the life they want, when they want it. And until someone is ready to have a baby, we believe they should have access to birth control. That’s where we come in. Bedsider makes birth control easier. How? By giving you everything you need to find it, get it, and use it well.


+ add your own
9:30AM PDT on Mar 19, 2014

Thank you

3:12AM PST on Dec 26, 2013


4:14PM PST on Dec 18, 2013

Interesting ,Very interesting

6:28PM PST on Dec 15, 2013


10:30PM PST on Dec 12, 2013

du học nhật bản

11:36PM PST on Dec 4, 2013

thanks for post
see more quần áo trẻ em xuất khẩu

6:38AM PST on Nov 26, 2013

Sigh... My dry spells could be cured if someone would invent a working transporter. My girl lives a thousand miles away.

8:16AM PST on Nov 21, 2013

Got the giggles...Thinking DRY UP?!?!? Shut the Duck!?!

6:35AM PST on Nov 17, 2013

I hope the lady has a sense of humor, because if I see pubic hair died pink, I will laugh for a while. No, I will not be turned off, and things will be fine after I had my laugh. So if she has a sense of humor, it might turn out very well.

On a more serious note, when talking of STI, do not forget that hepatitis is one of them, especially HepC. So get checked for that, and if you are clear, get vaccianted for HepA and Hep B. Also, be on the lookout for the HepC vaccine soon to be available. This is important because for every person who has died of AIDS, 7 died from sexually transmitted hepatitis. Be safe.

10:51AM PST on Nov 16, 2013

CHAD A & KATHY P: When you "dry spell" jumps up and bites you in the butt - and it will - please remember that this is the day that I told you that "your day will come". Don and I CAN! :-))

add your comment

Disclaimer: The views expressed above are solely those of the author and may not reflect those of
Care2, Inc., its employees or advertisers.

people are talking

Dogs will possibly do OK for a while on a Vegan diet but eventually they will not. Dogs are meat ea…

Classic flower with countless uses. I have three huge lavender plants in my garden and LOVE the smel…

When I was 8, I wanted to be a teacher and I became one. But i didn't know the harassment I would ha…

It's just crazy to allow oil drilling in the Arctic! We already know of global warming and the damag…


Select names from your address book   |   Help

We hate spam. We do not sell or share the email addresses you provide.

site feedback


Problem on this page? Briefly let us know what isn't working for you and we'll try to make it right!