How To Feel Connected In A Disconnected World

For years, I was walking around on auto-pilot, going to school, going to work, going to the gym, coming home, making dinner, watching movies, hanging with friendsÖ

But something was missing.

Meet Your Inner Pilot Light

For almost two decades, I lost touch with myself and my Divine spark, the part I now call my ďInner Pilot Light.Ē What is your Inner Pilot Light?†I wrote about it in detail here but at its essence, itís that brilliant, radiant, always-ignited, never-extinguished, 100 percent authentic, intuitive part of you that was there before you were born and will live on after you die.

Call it your soul. Call it your spirit. Call it Cap’n Crunch, for all I care. Itís YOU. Not the ego-identified part of you that thinks youíre separate from All That Is.† Not the insecure, self-doubting, stuck-in-your-head-but-absent-from-your-body part of you that listens to Gremlins of fear and gets sidetracked by anxiety and dark moods. The other part. The sparkly part. The genius part. The part with all the answers to all our questions. The part that knows the truth about how you feel and isnít afraid to act on your truth. The part you had in spades until someone hurt you and you accidentally covered up your Inner Pilot Light, thinking you were protecting yourself. The heart of you that loves like thereís no tomorrow and isnít afraid to lose everything.

Your Inner Pilot Light isnít a poser. It doesnít wear masks or pretend to be something untrue. Your Inner Pilot Light is unapologetic about what it likes and doesnít like, although it never passes judgment on those who feel differently.† Your Inner Pilot Light is fearless about wearing purple, getting tattooed, dying your hair pink, letting your freak flag fly, or happily and unapologetically rocking your 2.5 kids, the PTA meetings, and your white picket fence.

Your Inner Pilot Light loves everyone, knows weíre all interconnected in this web of energy that unites us all, and isnít afraid to express this universal affection openly. Your Inner Pilot Light keeps an open heart, even in the face of serial heartbreak. Your Inner Pilot Light might be unpopular at times, because it isnít concerned about pleasing everyone else, but ultimately, itís also the golden ticket to finding true love, inner peace, spiritual connection, inspired, meaningful work, financial abundance, physical and mental health, and the tribe who†really adores you.

Now thatís juicy!

Trauma As A Vehicle For Connection

For me, connecting with my Inner Pilot Light required massive trauma. Within two weeks of having given birth to my daughter, my dog died, my brother wound up in full blown liver failure, and my father passed away from a brain tumor. Then a few months later, my hubby, who was the full time Daddy of our newborn, cut two fingers off his left hand with a table saw.

Talk about getting hit by a two-by-four from The Universe.

Looking back, I realize my Inner Pilot Light had been screaming at me for years, trying to wake me up out of my blind stupor. But I was so comfortably deaf and numb in my unhappy existence that I couldnít hear any of the messages from my essence of truth.

Then my Perfect Storm hit and all hell broke loose.

Clearly, I needed the wake up call in order to get back on my path after veering off course. But you donít have to wait for that kind of trauma to listen to your Inner Pilot Light and feel connected to yourself and All That Is. You can start by just getting quiet and listening to the messages your mind, heart, and body send you about whatís true for you.

How To Connect

  • Trust that your light always shines. If you feel like youíve lost touch with your Inner Pilot Light, start by trusting that itís right there, shining away, even if the light has grown a bit dim. Know that your light is just dying to express itself like a sunbeam. Even at night, when you canít see it, the sun is still shining.
  • Get quiet. Itís hard to hear the quiet whispers of your Inner Pilot Light if youíre addicted to busyness. Try meditation, taking a silent walk in nature, practicing yoga, painting in your art studio, or writing in your journal. The more you can bring yourself to a place of what Martha Beck calls ďwordlessness,Ē the more youíll feel whatís true for you in a way that isnít so much intellectual as it is embodied.
  • Donít be afraid of whatís true. As you start hearing the whispers from your Inner Pilot Light, resist the temptation to make the whispers wrong. Donít judge your desires. Donít be fearful of your truth. Sometimes, what you hear will command big change in your life. But donít let that scare you into tuning your Inner Pilot Light out. You donít have to take action right now. The goal, at least in the beginning, is simply to be honest with yourself about whatís true for you.
  • Ask for help. If you long to feel more connected to your Inner Pilot Light but canít seem to tap in, ask The Universe (or God or Goddess or Buddha or Allah or Jesus or whatever Higher Power rocks your world) to help you hear the voice of your truth. Pray. Light candles. Go to your place of worship. Get on your knees in fields of wildflowers.
  • Sign up for the Daily Flame. For almost a year now, Iíve been offering my community The Daily Flame, messages from your Inner Pilot Light to YOU. Hereís a sample of what youíll get when you sign up for these free emails.

The Daily Flame

Dearest, darling YOU,

Can I let you in on a little secret? You and me – thereís no separation between us. You are me. I am you.

The only difference between us is that, in moments of blindness, you still have the illusion that itís a dog-eat-dog world out there, that others are out to get you, that youíre only valuable if you give until your depleted, that youíre a lone island in a big sea, and that how we treat others doesnít affect ourselves.

Take off the blindfold, precious.

See the truth.

Eyes wide open,

Your Inner Pilot Light

Sign up for the free Daily Flame here.

How Do You Tap In?
Share your tips. Tell us your story. Let your Inner Pilot Light sparkle!



Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of†, author of Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself (Hay House, 2013),†TEDx speaker, and health care revolutionary.†Join her newsletter list for free guidance on healing yourself, and check her out on†Twitter and†Facebook.

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Gabriella Bertelmann

Very nice article, thank you

Patricia H.
Patricia H.3 years ago

thanks for sharing

ii q.
g d c.3 years ago

thx. need that occasional pep-talk/inspiration...

Noreen Niamath
Noreen Niamath3 years ago

Mantra: This little light of mine, let shine let shine!

Atocha B.
Mary B.3 years ago

This little Light of Mine, I'm gonna let it shine!

Kevin Cline
Past Member 3 years ago

Humor is the best medicine.

Shelly Peterson
Shelly Peterson3 years ago

Care2, for me, has been the most empowering, proactive way to use my life, my existance and say thankyou for my soul, that I have ever, ever, ever found!!!..everyday, I have almost .."put my best foot forward"..some days, I just needed to rest.....But, Care2, connected me to the BEST realtime information, truth, and some of the most incrediable people on the face of our planet!..Everyday, besides practicing my faith of thanking God and the Universe for my life and all that exists, I come to Care2..and I sign these petitions, that are logical and are saving our Planet and each other, as a Global Community..All of Life is interconnected and so are WE!..and being proactive in your life everyday, is the best!!!

Winn Adams
Winn Adams3 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Heather Marvin
Heather Marv3 years ago

Also Lissa you are a doctor and you have studied this, this is very encouraging.

Heather Marvin
Heather Marv3 years ago

Thanks Lissa, we are so much more than a body/mind. Good advice. I journal and seek God for answers etc. It is amazing how much peace this brings.