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How to Handle Negative People


I have a weekly radio show on Hay House radio every Wednesday. The show before mine is hosted by one of my favorite authors, Dr. Christiane Northrup, so I often listen to the last fifteen minutes of her program. Even as a passive listener of Dr. Northrup’s show I always pick up some kind of incredible wisdom and advice. On one show a caller complained that her mother loved to rant about how miserable she was. The caller went on to say, “my mother hates life and doesn’t believe in happiness.”

When I heard this comment I perked up with curiosity wondering how she would answer. As usual, Dr. Northrup’s response was spot on and when I applied it in my own life it greatly helped me handle negative people. In this video I share her tip and offer you the opportunity test-drive this exercise in your own relationships. Practice this tool and let me know how it goes by posting a comment below. I expect miracles!

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Gabby Bernstein

Featured in the New York Times Sunday Styles section as "a new role model," motivational speaker, life coach and author Gabrielle Bernstein is making her mark. Expanding the lexicon for the next generation spiritual seekers, Gabrielle is a #1 bestselling author of the book Add More ~ing to Your Life – A hip guide to happiness, and Spirit Junkie, A Radical Road to Self-Love and Miracles. In 2008 she launched her social networking site HerFuture.com for young women to find mentors. HerFuture's growing community exceeds 12,000 members.

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10:49AM PDT on Sep 12, 2013

Wow, very clever. Thanks for passing on this piece of advice.

1:58AM PDT on Aug 1, 2013

I am related to someone who I know for a fact no in the family likes. It's really the only reason I keep in contact with this person. The reason no likes him is that he is socially retarded. In that each time he calls me he is instigating a fight. Well a long time ago as a teeneger I saw through this imature act and decided I would not allow his stupidity to alter my mood. Never again at all! And so I remained as happy as I normally am during as before and after our conversations. The thing that I get from this is that my being happy is my own personal decission. And I don't have to allow anyone else to take that from me.

12:39AM PDT on Jul 20, 2013

How to handle negative people? Well if gags and ropes are out of the question, avoidance can be quite useful. If that's not possible, detachment. Let them make fools of themselves with their foulness, but be untouched by it and unmoved. They quite simply are not worth disrupting your inner equilibrium.

11:12AM PDT on Jul 19, 2013

interesting, good to know

2:03AM PDT on Jul 10, 2013

Thank you :)

11:02PM PDT on Jul 9, 2013

Thanks for this article, very interesting.

3:03PM PDT on Jun 25, 2013

We used to call this commiseration. By validating the negative person's feeling you help them to release at least a little of the negativity, over time it can help most. However, there are some people who just plain enjoy being negative, These are the ones I try very hard to avoid because after a while they can make you feel depressed or even find the negatives in your life. Sorry, been there, done that. Will do no more.

9:01AM PDT on Jun 21, 2013

Worth the effort? TRY. Look to possible self-adjustment you can live with. TRY AGAIN.

After all is done that can be done, anything change? IF NOT -- BAIL. Life's too short, move forward. Everything is not fixable enough to live with/in -- give yourself another shot to breath free.

The good news is that each day is new, full of endless possibilities ... dig in.

8:39AM PDT on Jun 19, 2013

However;
"Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience"
(Mark Twain)
from Ben O. :+) * Green Star *

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great comments on a difficult subject
could not see the video
just took cues from our Care2 members
and it appears that most of us have faced this very real
human dilemma: How to be positive with negative people.

Sometimes all we can do is be kind, and limit our
time with those who are determined to see the
aweful in everything. (usually not themselves, however)

But, kindness is still the way to go~ If some insight is shared and does some good, then, that's an added bonus!


7:45AM PDT on Jun 19, 2013

I wish they wouldn't have so many videos. I just want to read the salient points (unless its funny). I must be negative, cos i couldn't be bothered to open this and watch.

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