How to Seek Forgiveness

The great Vedic scholar Eknath Easwawan tells a poignant story. At the end of a lifetime, a person’s soul goes to a plane of existence where each life is reviewed. The soul enters a theater in which a movie of the recent life is playing. The soul begins watching the movie but often has to turn away because of terribly uncomfortable scenes. Sins of omission and sins of commission cramp the heart, and the scene becomes too painful to watch. As a result of not being able to watch the complete movie, important lessons are missed, and the soul must reincarnate to learn them in the next lifetime.

According to this story, the primary cause for not being able to watch the painful scenes of life is a lack of forgiveness—for others and for oneself. Forgiveness is the essence of letting go. It means relinquishing attachments to the past and clearing encumbrances that constrict the heart. These constrictions are the source of inertia, entropy, and aging. Release them to grow younger.

Try this simple exercise.

Close your eyes, bring your attention into your heart and ask if you are holding onto any grievances, hostilities, resentments or regrets. If any come to mind, ask what occurred that led to the blockage in your heart. Then, ask what needs to occur now in order to release these toxins. Look for the gift that every life experiences offers, even painful ones, and express your gratitude for the experience.

Remember this beautiful expression from A Course in Miracles and refer to it often: “Every decision I make is a choice between a grievance and a miracle.” We encourage you to choose a miracle.

Adapted from Grow Younger, Live Longer, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 2001). Reprinted by permission of the author.
Adapted from Grow Younger, Live Longer, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 2001).

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Ann F.
Ann F.4 years ago

thanks for sharing!

K s Goh
KS Goh5 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Melissah Chadwick
Melissah C.5 years ago


John D.
Past Member 5 years ago

Forgiving is not the same as forgetting. People who are embarrassed by their past actions often forget them. If prompted, they recall an edited version that puts them into a better light.

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Georgette Booker
Georgette Booker5 years ago

Release them to grow younger.

Ana B.
Ana B.5 years ago

Great article! thank you for this wonderful reminder...even though I have momentary glimpses of complete forgiveness for those that trespass me and for all those that cause suffering in the world it is such a challenge to maintain this frame of mind, heart and feels as it is easy for spirit but more challenging for mind and heart/body...its a constant struggle...but one so worthy of working at :)

Jane R.
Jane R.5 years ago

Forgiving someone else or forgiving yourself is easier said than done.

Deb Lewis
debbie Lewis5 years ago


Ness f.5 years ago

Please forgive me... for my horrendous spelling erors also, as I very quickly typed my post! ((( hugs )))

Ness f.5 years ago

Jeanne T I'm with you, as I have the same problem / issue!
I personally don't know what your issue is yet mine is called my Mother in law, it took 15 yrs and my husband finally realising what control she tried to hold over THE WHOLE family that he cringed and said enough was enough.
Yes we are still in contact with them ( inlaws ), yes I still get the kids to ring them, say hi and update them on their events and achivements, send cards, pressies etc, yet I have stopped all verbal communication personally with her as she is phenominal! I'm an affectionate caring person, she is an emotional , smothering, control freak!
Control is an understatement...took 15yrs, yet I finally said enough was how the tide has turned, even my b. in law recently noted I did the right thing!
Good luck to all.