In Letting Go, I Never Lose

Just days before the tenth anniversary of the mortifying September 11 attacks, a plane crash off the coast of Chile rocks a nation, and here in Uruguay we are all reminded of the pain and sorrow of loss. It reminds us of the unpredictability of life, how every day surprises us in some way, and then sometimes surprise becomes shock, with the death of a loved one, a sudden illness, or a tragedy that moves us all.

We are reminded that life changes, sometimes abruptly, dramatically, unexpectedly. What is present in one moment, can be gone in the next: no matter the nation, no matter the motivation or the cause, loss moves us all, for we have all experienced it in some way or another.

But just as life is unpredictable, it is also wonderful. The opportunities to share love, to discover the best of ourselves, to discover selfless giving and inner evolution in every moment are always present. This is what we must never lose sight of, what in fact it is becoming ever more important that we never forget: that deep within lies the strength that can carry us forward, the peace and love that lift us up and allow us to support those around us.

Its presence does not call for action, but for being, the state of being that radiates love to all those around us.

When these events rock our world, they are calling us to focus on what is real, here and now, and in every moment. In times of external uncertainty, cultivate internal security: the inner stability that only can be experienced through the expansion of consciousness, by developing a deeper awareness of self. In doing so, we increase our capacity to embrace life and to give, without restraints, to share abundantly the best of ourselves.

This is what we can do with those who are no longer by our side: celebrate what they have left behind, what they have given to us; gifts of all kinds, some obvious, others maybe disguised as difficult times that ultimately brought growth and evolution. We all know in our hearts what we have received, especially if we are connected with the internal experience of unconditional love, within which even that which we see as “wrong” dissolves in this energy, leaving behind the best aspects of every situation, and leaving a smile in the heart.

When external instability reminds us of our fragility, our mortality, if you take your awareness inward, you will find that beyond the changing world, beyond the loss and gain, beyond our concerns and separations we can find new opportunities to love, to care, to share our hearts, which deep within call out yes to life, a yes that unites us all, a yes that grows and inspires us to give, a yes to doing more for everyone, to leaving our mark with deeds that will be remembered, reminding us that the race to material gain was never as important as the journey towards self discovery and sharing.

Even if we feel lost, confused, disoriented or desolate, we can all† bring our attention into our hearts. Feel its beat, feel its warmth: within it you can discover love-consciousness. It is inexhaustible, unlimited; the more it gives, the more it has to share. This is the time; this is the shared embrace. Every family has its losses and hardships, every neighborhood, every town and every country. So when a tragic event twists the hearts of a nation, it is more important than ever that we unite, supporting the best aspects of each other.

It’s time to transform ourselves through the actions of love. The loss of innocent lives, near or far, can inspire thousands and even millions to do more, to give within their communities, to support those who were left behind, maybe by helping clean up the neighborhood, or cooking hot soup for the homeless. Letís grow from our losses, and learn to unite in a shared embrace. Learn to dance together through the joy and the pain, in the midst of difficulties, facing what life brings, looking for the best within each situation, giving thanks and loving, growing and giving, in unity.

Letís remember that life really has no guarantees, and that happiness is found within the unpredictable nature of the world. Letís share and celebrate life together, letís honor and remember the best of those we lost. By starting with ourselves, we inspire those around us to follow.

This post is part of a collective tribute for September 11th. Click here for more Care2 stories on 9/11.

Isha Judd is an internationally renowned spiritual teacher and author; her latest book and movie, Why Walk When You Can Fly? explain her system for self-love and the expansion of consciousness. Learn more at


Elena T.
Elena Poensgen3 years ago

Thank you :)

Fi T.
Fi T3 years ago

It's a win-win triumph

Michael H.
Mike H3 years ago

Nice thoughts. Not so easy to practice them.

Victor M.
Victor M4 years ago

let things flow

KS Goh
KS Goh4 years ago

Thanks for the article.

KS Goh
KS Goh4 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Treesa Math
tia Math5 years ago

beautiful article... thanks

Anne Brabson
Anne B5 years ago

What a beautiful posting! The title truly sums it all up!

Ameer T.
Ameer T5 years ago

True this was a devastating event. I won't implicate some particular group responsible for it either. But once let us take a moment to consider something that may be bigger and better than all of us. Americans and peoples from all nationalities died on that fateful day, so the grief should rightly be shared by the entire world and the loss should be considered global, not just American. But even if someone did not lose a friend or relative in the 9/11 attacks, we are all connected through the bond of humanity. And therefore there is where my appeal lies.

America started a war in three countries as a direct consequence of the 9/11 attacks. in ten years How many people do you think were bombed, attacked, arrested, shot, harrassed, murdered, raped, orphaned, widowed, threatened, robbed and killed? i dont think a true figure would ever be reached. but it would be safe to say they were in the millions.

They couldn't all be terrorists. thats common sense. But what they were and are, are our brethren humans. They feel pain as much as you, they love their families as much as you, they love liberty as much as you, they are in a sense just like you.

How many of them would need to continue to die as a consequence of war? how many children should continue to wait for their father or mother to come back, or widows for their spouses.

Ameer T.
Ameer T5 years ago

Sure Everyone is having fun now because the war is taking place elsewhere. some place far off from where the cries of children and widowed women, the shrieks of raped girls, the wimpers of kidnapped orphaned children to be sold as sex slaves in the meat markets of Europe and US and indeed the world dont reach your ears.

The bombs are raging on over some desert dwelling, barefoot, naked, illiterate, half civilised people. All the better if the war is far off and not near home. At least your family, loved ones & your children and pets are safe.

So who cares right? even if you lose a bit of sleep over it when you get down to thinking sometime, you are reminded that these muslims are a plague and a threat to everything good and civilised. If left unchecked they may bring the world back to the dark ages. they are barbaric and so they should be killed without remorse, without pity, without consequence. Or perhaps you may think that the world is over populated and this killing will set the clock back a bit.

But Powers have risen and fallen throughout history. America has risen now and seems it is set to fall already with the crises it has run itself into. Consider that another nation rises to power, maybe even muslims and they find similar reasons such as yours to come and bomb you back to oblivion and similarly be deaf, dumb and blind to the pleas and cries of your loved ones. Is that the future you want to see for your children? coz thats the standard you have set.