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8 Things You Didn’t Know About Cheaters

8 Things You Didn’t Know About Cheaters

While there may not be a clinical definition of what constitutes a cheater, the fact is that cheaters exist and they cause far more damage than it’s usually worth. Whether you consider cheating as sex or simply a kiss, no matter what the parameters of your relationship, a betrayal is a betrayal.

Here are a few things that you may have never known about cheaters, but probably should because, you know, there are many of them out there. You might as well educate yourself on this breed of people.

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1. Cheaters Are More Likely To Be Rock ‘n’ Roll Fans.
Because music and sex really do go hand-in-hand, researchers have found that when it comes to cheaters, 41 percent of them prefer rock music to all other genres. Falling in line after that, respectively, is pop music (16 percent), country music (11 percent), classical music (7 percent) and rap/hip-hop came in last place with only 2 percent of cheaters favoring that stuff. Takeaway? Kanye and Kim really have a chance!

2. When Women Cheat, It’s A Dangerous Business.
For some reason, a long time ago, a rumor was started that when it came to infidelity, men held the honor of being the most likely to stray, but it’s a lie! Not only do women cheat, but studies have found the difference between the two sexes is that usually when women stray, it’s to fulfill an emotional need as opposed to a physical one. Emotional involvement is pretty much just one or two steps away from a completely kaput relationship that can’t be saved. Purely physical entanglements might still have a chance of getting a relationship back on track.

3. Cheaters Are Actually Happy In Their Relationship.
Cheating doesn’t necessarily mean that the cheater thinks their relationship is the absolute pits. While that’s not to suggest that every cheater feels this way, but the majority of those who commit adultery are happy in their lives and relationships, and aren’t even looking for a break-up. According to a Rutgers University study, 56 percent of men who had affairs were happy with their partners, while 34 percent of women who cheated were also really content in their relationship. They just do it, because, well, they can.

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4. Cheaters Get “Friskier” When They’re Cheating.
According to intimacy expert Mary Jo Rapini, once that sex drive is awoken in the cheating party, sometimes after years of hibernation, things can go from zero to 20 with their spouse fast. It might seem like things have turned around with all that extra attention, but in reality, there’s a little somethin’ somethin’ going on elsewhere.

5. Women Are More Likely To Cheat When They’re Ovulating.
Oh, dear. It sounds like something out of a How To Be A Good Wife handbook from 1957, but it’s true. As UCLA researcher Dr. Martie Haselton explains, “We found that women were most attracted to men other than their primary partner when they were in the high fertility phase of the menstrual cycle. That’s the day of ovulation and several days beforehand.” Yikes! Not only that, but women feel sexier when their body is in tip-top mode to make a baby, so combine that with their desire for men other than their partner and we have a double yikes situation.

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6. Men Will Cheat To “Fix” Their Marriage.
It may sound like the most ridiculous thing in the world, but according to marriage and family therapist Susan Mandel, PhD, men who love their spouses think that by going outside their marriage, they can save it. Perhaps it’s a difficult concept to swallow, but in their brains, they think they can have it all, and therefore it will lead to less of a longing for something else.

7. Cheaters Usually Cheat With Someone They Already Know.
It may be comforting to think that if your partner is going to cheat, it will be with a one-night stand, but cheaters tend to stick closer to home. In fact, the most common place for an affair to blossom is at work. Research has found that 85 percent of cheating starts amongst coworkers, with friends and neighbors not being too far behind.

8. Cheaters Want To Get Caught.
Think about the burden it must be to carry around such a weight day in and day out! The guilt! The secrecy! The fear of, “OMG! Am I about to be found out?” Welp, cheaters, some of you actually want to be found out after all. According to Scott Haltzman, MD, a clinical professor at Brown University and author of The Secrets of Happy Married Men, “People may actually set it up so the spouse or partner find out. Whether it’s lipstick on the collar or emails left open on the family computer, we leave our fingerprints everywhere. Oftentimes, it’s a cry to say ‘I need to get help.’ Some people make it obvious because they want to stop but don’t know how.” Well then. I guess we can’t all live with being conniving and deceitful forever, now can we? Go us!

By Amanda Chatel for YourTango.com.

This article originally appeared on YourTango.com: Infidelity & Adultery: 8 Things You Didn’t Know About Cheaters.

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10:18AM PDT on Jul 29, 2014

Holly M. is right.10 out of 10 cheaters are selfish.

1:00AM PDT on Jul 24, 2014

Noted.

6:33AM PDT on Jun 26, 2014

In the Gay&Wild 1930's,my Mom was a Dance Instructor.This is where my Dad met her.But it was not Rock&Roll music. I am a Rock&Roller. My First Wife said to me "go ahead and cheat,just don't let me find out". Now I taught her to shoot both Firearms and the Longbow. My Second Wife said"go ahead and get some,somewhere else. Just don't bring any disease home"."+ when I find out,the knife will cut your male parts off".I only taught this one Firearms. I once said while in a group."Gee,there's so many women for men now so wheres my other ones"? My Wife responded with"Honey,you can't even handle me,never mind the rest". Everyone laughed,even me. I was faithful to both and took our vows seriously...

1:47AM PDT on Jun 25, 2014

I like rock music, but i'm not a cheater.

4:24PM PDT on Jun 23, 2014

Given that the majority of relationships are based on conditional love instead of unconditional Love this does not surprise me. Also we need to be aware of how our ego is at play here in this matrix of life by its needs. The need to judge ,the need to control and the need to be approved. so by waking up to these needs and loving ourselves unconditionally to removing them because when we do we become immortal.

11:47AM PDT on Jun 21, 2014

ty

4:36AM PDT on Jun 21, 2014

"Cheaters Are Actually Happy In Their Relationship"...? -Holy crap!

4:35AM PDT on Jun 21, 2014

"Cheaters Are More Likely To Be Rock ‘n’ Roll Fans"...??? -Give me a break!

11:19PM PDT on Jun 20, 2014

Thanks for the Post

1:20PM PDT on Jun 20, 2014

Sorry, but I know a classical Beethoven fan that is a cheater! Stupid article.

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