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Introvert or Extrovert: What’s Your Personality Type?

Introverts: The Crocuses
The common misconception about introverts is that they are all shy or aloof. Not only is that not the case, but the association is pejorative. Society uses words like guarded, loner, taciturn, and self-contained to describe introverts, words that connote misanthropy and closed emotions. For women especially, being an introvert carries negative implications. While men can get away with being the “strong, silent type,” Rauch notes that we are more likely to perceive introverted women as “timid, withdrawn, haughty.”

On the contrary, introverts can be very outgoing–they just need to break up their social interactions with time alone, or they get tired and moody. How much solitude each person needs differs, but the right amount leaves introverts feeling refreshed, revived, and ready to get back in the game.

Introverts need to be honest with others, as well as with themselves, about their need for personal space. Because of the social stigma that comes with being a “loner,” they tend to try to hide their desire to withdraw, exhausting themselves and frustrating those around them with their grumpiness. How much happier would they be if instead they acknowledged their needs and didn’t push themselves to socialize just because they thought they were expected to?

Not only would they feel better, but introverts at their best have a lot to offer the world. Just because extroverts tend to assume leadership positions most often doesn’t mean they’re the only ones with strengths in those areas.’s Jennifer B. Kahnweiler reports that 40 percent of executives identify as introverts, including Bill Gates and Warren Buffett. Barack Obama is one, too.

Introverts think before they speak and offer thoughtful, reasoned comments; they also tend to impress and reassure others with their cool confidence, and have a talent for written communication, which helps them to better articulate their positions and is an advantage in this age of online social networking.

A World of Hybrids
Most of us are neither entirely sunflower nor entirely crocus, but somewhere in between. The key to a happy life and healthy relationships is striking a balance between these two personality types and countering our strengths and weaknesses. Introverts don’t have to be loners; they simply need to recharge now and then. And extroverts will benefit from building up some reserves of their own.

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10:09AM PST on Feb 3, 2014

Thanks very much for the article.

6:21PM PDT on Jun 1, 2013

A little of both maybe.

3:00PM PDT on May 1, 2013

I think the last paragraph is the most pertinent. I would probably describe myself as an introvert, if pushed, but am an actor. Go, as they say, figure. I think we all have aspects of both personality types, depending on time of life, mood, situation etc.

10:36PM PDT on Apr 15, 2013

I'm just me...i really enjoyed this article,thank you!!

4:32AM PST on Feb 6, 2013


7:43AM PDT on Oct 22, 2012

an introvert, surely

10:51AM PDT on Oct 21, 2012

Thank you! Very interesting...

1:04PM PDT on Mar 28, 2012

interesting article, thank you.

4:41PM PST on Feb 11, 2012

Ariel - I'm the same. Whilst I'd say I'm probably more of an introvert than an extrovert, I don't like being a loner. I've come out of my shell a lot over the last few years around people with similar interests, and have made more friends now I'm in a group of people who accept me for who I am.

4:36PM PST on Feb 11, 2012

I'm a balance between the two really. People have described me as "deep" or a thinker, as I am very creative and do sometimes need to spend time either on my own or with one person (usually my partner), doing craft and reading about topics that interest me. I never like being the centre of attention. However I do get lonely if left completely on my own for too long, and when around people I know I'm very chatty and sociable, and get on very easily with people who have similar interests.

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