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Is Self Love Selfish?

Is Self Love Selfish?

When the spirited writer and illustrator S A R K made the decision to be consciously single (which, she reminds us, is different from being single and looking for a partner, or just waiting for one, but involves truly embarking on a love-affair with yourself), she was faced with many questions and fears.

Find out some of what she has learned on her delicious solo journey, here:

“I had always been afraid to explore self-love for fear of what I would find, or not find there–or being thought of as selfish! Also, who would I be without someone to love? Could I really stop ‘looking’ and just look at myself? And, if I was not enough for myself, how could I be enough for another? Could I be my own Someone?

“I saw the ‘gifts’ of all my poor choices and misguided relationships, and felt the fear I uncovered when I really looked in the mirror and said I love you. It has taken a lot of time and work to be able to look at myself in the mirror with compassion and see only love and it happens intermittently.

“The pleasure has been in finding myself so precious and lovable. I as amazed to witness how endearing I can be. I am learning still, how to feel deserving of this self-love. I’m also solidifying my trust in life and my self.

Read more: Spirit, Inspiration

Inspired by Eat Mangoes Naked, by S A R K (Simon and Schuster, 2001).

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Annie B. Bond

Annie is a renowned expert in non-toxic and green living. She was named one of the top 20 environmental leaders by Body and Soul Magazine and "the foremost expert on green living." - Body & Soul Magazine, 2009. Learn Annie's latest eco-friendly news on, a website dedicated to healthy and green living.

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2:50AM PST on Feb 27, 2013

Loving oneself doesn't really mean to be selfish only if the love is not exclusive

4:28PM PDT on Aug 15, 2012


4:28PM PDT on Aug 15, 2012


5:15PM PDT on May 28, 2012

thanks :)

12:17PM PDT on Mar 15, 2012

It's natural

10:38PM PST on Mar 3, 2012

Thanks for sharing.

10:31PM PST on Mar 3, 2012


2:35PM PST on Feb 23, 2012

You have to love yourself.

2:34PM PST on Feb 23, 2012

You have to love yourself.

4:22AM PST on Feb 23, 2012

I'm afraid that I wouldn't be able to do this myself, and props to the author for managing it!

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