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Is Your Cat a Bully?









Please note that recently introduced cats do need to work out where each fits into the social hierarchy and this will inevitably involve staring, posturing, and hissing until the dust has settled. It may even involve one major tooth and claw brawl for the pair to learn who really is the dominate cat. If you intervene too often during this transition, you will likely only extend this limbo period which can cause even greater stress to you and your cats than if you just let them work it out.  Some cats will never be friends – such as Sushi and Mittens, but others will bond beautifully like Riki and Sushi, and Riki and Mittens (Riki is the affable, agreeable go-between who loves everyone!), but they should be able to create a truce.

If your newly introduced cats are really have a hard time adjusting to each other, try playing with both of them at the same time. Use a string toy that they can both follow and pounce on together (preferably not at exactly the same moment, as that would really freak them out!). Over time, the serotonin rush that they get with chasing “prey” sometimes will help overcome the bad feelings they have about each other.

Do you have other ideas about how to deal with a bully cat? If so, please share with us in the comment section below.


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Cherise Udell

Cherise Udell is a mom, clean air advocate, anthropologist and feline aficionado with the nomadic habit of taking spontaneous sojourns to unusual destinations. Before her adventures in motherhood, she was an intrepid Amazon jungle guide equipped with a pair of sturdy wellingtons and a 24-inch machete, as well as a volunteer at a rainforest animal rescue center.


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9:14AM PST on Feb 5, 2014

That's one mean lookin' cat!

4:08PM PDT on Jul 18, 2013

All my 3 cats is not really a bully. They are at peace with each others.

9:49AM PDT on Mar 29, 2013

great article, i have a cat that shows all of those signs. maybe it's that she's just not getting enough attention. thanks for the insight!

12:35PM PDT on Mar 22, 2013

my kittens do a lot of the stuff listed above but they are only playing with each other

7:47AM PDT on Mar 20, 2013

thank you for sharing

9:25AM PDT on Mar 16, 2013

thanks for sharing :)

2:56AM PST on Mar 6, 2013

My kitten bullies my oldest cat. They're really noisey at night when they fight and they tear up the carpets fighting one and other

9:28AM PST on Mar 2, 2013

My cat is a bully to me too, when we got a new kitten we had to give it back!

5:40AM PST on Mar 2, 2013

One of my cats Daisy has always bullied my other cats throughout the years, but yet gets on with my latest kitty a ginger tom kitten

2:55AM PST on Feb 25, 2013 cat is so sweet

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Thanks for the information and very useful buying seasons.

Get in there you big furry oaf, I don't care what you smell! Cats!


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