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It’s Not Going To Turn Out The Way You Thought

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It’s Not Going To Turn Out The Way You Thought

By Kate Northrup Moller

It will happen later. His best friend will ask you out instead. You’ll be kissed in the movies instead of on a beach. You’ll end up going to a different school because the one you thought you’d get into didn’t work out.

She’ll move away. Someone else will move in next door. She’ll be a little weird at first, a little more shy, but ultimately really good at riding bikes and playing dolls.

That part you always wanted will go to that other girl instead. And you’ll rock it out in the chorus like your life depended on it. Because on some level it does.

The road you were going to take will be flooded and closed.

The inn where you were going to stay will be under renovations. He’ll be taller than you thought. And have a funny accent. But will be a good kisser nonetheless.

You’ll get a flat tire on the way to that crucial meeting and end up peeing your pants laughing with the gas station attendant over a copy of Us Magazine. And someone else will fill in for you because they always do.

You won’t get that dream job like you thought you would. It will go to someone else with far less creative drive and vision than you. Someone far better suited for a cubicle than you.

You’ll be put in groups with people who put your panties in a wrinkle. You’ll sit next to someone on the plane who you’d never talk to except that they won’t shut up…and you’ll end up staying in touch for years and taking family vacations together.

Five years after you graduate, life won’t look anything like you would have imagined. You’ll be single when you thought you’d be married. You’ll have kids when you thought you’d be in the Peace Corps. That trip to Laos will get delayed because you’ve got to stay home and take care of your grandmother. Laos will be there. You’re grandmother won’t always.

He’ll move over seas and oddly the Atlantic Ocean between you will bring you closer than you ever dreamed possible. You won’t get engaged, married, or pregnant when you thought.  You’ll miss the bus/train/plane/ferry that you thought you just HAD to be on.

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7:39AM PDT on Oct 5, 2011

thanks for the article :)

9:13AM PDT on Aug 28, 2011

So take your mind off it all by doing things for others, such as battling for the environment, for peace . . . in other words use Care2 to take your mind off your own selfish little interests. I did not get my 1st choice of career . . . not even my 20th come to that. I did not get any of the girls I wanted . . . at 54 I remain single and with virtually no experience of love . . . I do not have the particular Degree I wanted, I had to settle for the same as my career . . . but at least I can go on fighting the bastards and trying to make this a better world for others to live in. I count my blessings rather than feeling sorry for myself. I have nothing to feel sorry about.

12:08PM PDT on Aug 22, 2011

very true. It is what's

1:31AM PDT on Aug 15, 2011

Thank you for a very informative and interesting article

7:45PM PDT on Aug 8, 2011

Thank you!

8:00PM PDT on Aug 5, 2011

great article. a bit ironic for me and I REALLY love that.
Embrace what's in front of you - huh?

2:23PM PDT on Aug 3, 2011

great article and so true thanks

2:16PM PDT on Aug 3, 2011

Fun read. It definitley didn't turn out like I planned! Good and bad :)

7:07PM PDT on Jul 30, 2011

what is this "Life" anyway??? It takes a whole lifetime of "mistakes" and "wrong turns" to make a life. John Lennon said "Life is what happens to you while you're making other busy plans" --- I think we bought too high into thinking too rigidly about a "happily ever after" when we should have bought the truth that life is what is happening right now.
The goodness of a life is really measured by the love you are willing to be, and the rest just flows from there in utter beauty. The badness flows from the constriction of a heart that is unwilling to open, and will never be able to receive anything.

7:03AM PDT on Jul 30, 2011

great article thank u :)

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