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It’s Okay For Things To Go Well

Stuck in Struggle

These and other limiting thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs have gotten in my way in the past, kept me stuck in struggle, and at the very least have limited my experience of joy and fulfillment.  It’s almost as if I’ve been more comfortable suffering than I have been when things are thriving.  When there are issues, dramas, challenges, pains, and other difficulties to deal with, address, heal, and overcome – I’m able to dig down deep, access my power, and rise up to meet them.  I’m ready to breakthrough this and alter it in a fundamental and profound way.  How about you?

Your version of this may look a little different than mine, but lots of people I know and work with, even those who have created a lot of outward “success” in their lives, seem to struggle to one degree or another allowing things to go really well in their lives and doing so with real peace, gratitude, and joy.

What if we did allow things to go well and did so more graciously, intentionally, and consciously. My commitment to myself right now as I’m experiencing a period of expanded success, well being, and joy is to both appreciate it fully and allow it to expand and sustain at the same time.  Of course life has its inevitably ups and downs, ebbs and flows, and expansions and contractions – but, what if we stopped sabotaging ourselves, our success, and our fulfillment just as we began to experience it or because it got too good for us to handle?

Here are some things to focus on, think about, and practice to expand your capacity for things going well in your life:

1. Remember that it’s okay to shine. My dear friend, fellow Owning Pink blogger and author Lissa Rankin just wrote a beautiful blog post called “Is it safe to shine your light?” in which she talks about this exact phenomenon in a powerful way.  The more permission we give to ourselves (and those around us) to shine our “light,” the more we realize that it’s safe.  As Marianne Williamson says in her famous quote from her book A Return to Love, “…there’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”

2. Remind yourself that life’s not a competition.  This is a big one for me – as a former pro ball player and given the nature of my personality (I’m a 3 on the enneagram), I have a tendency to look at everything in life as a competition, even though it rarely is.  Competition is about our negative ego (thinking we are either “better than” or “less than”).  When we remember that life is not a competition, we can focus on our own unique experience and do so in a way that is real, not simply in reference to those around us – positively or negatively.

3. Take care of yourself. I’ve heard it said so many times that “happiness is an inside job,” which is true.  Oftentimes things become cliche because they are overused, but they are overused because of their universal truth.  The better job we do at taking care of ourselves and remembering that our fulfillment in life is much more about how we feel about and relate to ourselves, than it is about what others think of us or what results we produce in the world, the more likely we are to experience a true sense of joy and success.

There are a lot of things going on in the world, around us, and in our personal lives – these days and always.  Whether we’re dealing with circumstances right now that seem very challenging to us, ones that seem somewhat benign, or ones that seem overtly positive, giving ourselves permission to allow things to go well (and also to enjoy and appreciate when they do), is actually a bold and beautiful step we can take to not only enhance the quality and experience of our own lives, but that of everyone else we come into contact with as well.

How do you feel about things going well in your life?  What can you do to remind yourself and others that it’s okay for things to go well and for you to be happy? Share your thoughts, ideas, insights, actions, and more below.

Mike Robbins

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7:14AM PST on Feb 19, 2013

Yes, I know it is a really strange but sometimes things seem to good to be true that instead of living it we feel scared and insecure. I have tried to be firm in my purposes.

7:41PM PDT on Mar 31, 2012

Remember "This too shall pass". That applies to all things-good,bad,your life,all life, this very Earth and solar system will all go when the sun goes.

7:39PM PDT on Mar 31, 2012

You live in the here and now. The choices YOU ,make(not someone else) determines the outcome of YOUR life. He is gone and sounds, like a good choice, let go and move on with YOUR life.

11:58AM PDT on Mar 25, 2012

You do everyone around you a favor when you are happy and positive. It is easier to focus on things outside of yourself when you aren't worried about your problems. Sometimes I find it difficult to do the things I know will make me happier, but I'm always grateful when things are going well.

7:54PM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

Things usually go well for me, even when there are what look like glitches or set backs.I figure they're just 'course corrections' because when things are going well, I keep asking, "how good can it get?" The idea is to set your direction. "how good can it get?" will take you on a whole different journey than "How hard can it be?" Make sure you really want to know about the difficulties that can arise if you ask that question. If you think you must cycle back thru doubt, remember lots of people have already done that and the learning has been archived. No need to keep re-inventing the wheel, you can read about it some day when you have nothing better to do.

2:51AM PDT on Mar 15, 2012

A great post

7:52PM PDT on Mar 14, 2012

I'll take all the good luck I can get!

5:11PM PDT on Mar 14, 2012


4:44PM PDT on Mar 14, 2012

Right now I am in an incredible upswing in my encore career and I find myself second-guessing every single decision..I have been in the throes of a downhill spiral for several years trying different things to change course. Now that it is happening I'm scared to death.
A dream literally come true and at my age these chances are shall we say fewer and farther between. I actually live in paradise starting exactly the business I have desired for come I feel frozen in the middle of the night...Fortunately I also have the opportunity to teach a young Mexican man this business and he really keeps me grounded...That is the reason I won't screw this up. When someone is counting on you it does help..WOW talking this out helped.thanks!!!

1:56PM PDT on Mar 14, 2012

thank you. Thoughtful article.

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