Judge Not, Be Happy

Most people are trapped trying to impose their viewpoint on the world. They carry around beliefs about what is right and wrong, and they hold on to these beliefs for years. ďI am rightĒ brings comfort, but not true happiness. The people you feel wronged by will never apologize and make your wounds and grievances go away. The people you judge against will remain isolated from you. No one has ever been made happy by proving that they are right. The only result is conflict and confrontation, because the need to be right always makes someone else wrong.

There is no such thing as one and only one correct perspective. Right is whatever conforms to your perception. You see the world as you are. Others see the world as they are, too. This insight is tremendously liberating because, first of all, it makes you unique. Ultimately it makes you a cocreator with God. For as your consciousness expands, so does reality. Tremendous hidden potential is revealed.

The opposite happens if you insist upon being right. Because others will disagree, your need to be right will generate antagonism and rejection.

If the world is a mirror of who you are, it is always reflecting a point of view. Objectivity is an illusion of the ego, created to bolster its insistence that what it sees is right. Itís tragic that people sacrifice the real goal of life, which is increasing joy and happiness, for the cold comfort of judging others and feeling superior to them. If you see the world with judgment instead of love, thatís the world you will inhabit.

Adapted from The Ultimate Happiness Prescription, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2009).

129 comments

Dagmar Breg
Past Member 3 years ago

Great point.

Samantha Shira
Samantha Shira4 years ago

thanks(: ive learned to be happy for others and myself seperately.

Heidi Awes
Heidi Awes4 years ago

Yeah. Everyone has their own perspective. Corporations see nothing wrong with exploiting what or who they wish for their bottomline. It is up to the citizen(s) to tell them they are wrong! When one sues someone over a defaulted loan(they lost their money but had an agreemtent with the other party they would pay it), they are showing the Judge that the other party wronged them. Society has a place for Judges to call a pot black when it is.

Kristina C.
Kristina C.4 years ago

Very wise comments! Unfortunately continously ignored by the conservative Right!

federico bortoletto

Ottimo articolo.

Amanda Nicole
Past Member 4 years ago

great article! it is very hard to live this way, even when you want to SO BADLY, because of how rude and inconsiderate people are these days. ofcourse, you could say that calling people "rude and inconsiderate" is being judgemental, but sometimes it's just a fact... but the idea that these people will never truly understand how their actions are hurtful to others, does help a little. we are the only ones who gain uneasiness from disagreeing with the way others act. it does seem unfair though, that we have to just put up with the way rude people are when they can just continue to act how they want :/ heh. sorry.

James Athey
James Athey5 years ago

wow great article : )

Jewels S.
Jewels S.5 years ago

It took a while before I learned what unconditional love was. To love someone even if what they do or say you do not agree with. To love someone even if what they do, say or feel means sacrificing your own want. I once had a guy friend ask me what my definition of love was. I told him that I thought love was when you would die for another's happiness or for what if best for them over your own want. It doesn't have to be a physical death but a death of an expectation.

Robert Taylor
Robbie Taylor5 years ago

Brilliant advice.
Thank you.

Stephanie A.
Stephanie A.5 years ago

This is such a profound truth..on the deepest level. The challenge is to find people who reflect back these truths...One hopes that as more reflect these truths...others will see their reflection in us and mirror the same for more..Thank you Deepak Chopra..
Stephanie Alt, MS http://stephaniealt.com/