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Learning to Breathe Again

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Learning to Breathe Again

“When did you start holding your breath?”

I hadn’t noticed that I wasn’t breathing but, as it turned out, I wasn’t. Luckily, my therapist noticed and started riding my rear about it. That was the first time the issue even appeared on my radar. Not much came of it, outside of her office at least, but I was alerted to my tendency to restrict my breath while frustrated or sad or nervous. You know… the things one might feel in a therapist’s office.

In my last post, I spilled the beans about my roundness, vanity, and holding my breath. I promised to share some of the pieces of the Breathe puzzle which expanded my awareness and supported my healing around this habit. I realize now that an inclusive list would be more book chapter than blog post. So, I’m going to break it up into two posts and share the pieces that have come through my newish Kundalini Yoga practice in a separate post next time.

Notice Your Breath – It was my dear friend and early life coach who finally went beyond the nagging reminder to breathe and asked me when I stopped breathing fully. I reflected for a moment before whispering the surprising answer that was pounding about in my brain, “I’m not sure I ever did!” Even though I’d been asked about it before, I honestly hadn’t stopped to notice my breathing patterns, how often I held my breath, and the simple decision to notice myself in this way was incredibly insightful. Breathing dysfunction discovered! Sound the alarms!

Breathe Into A Book – That same woman helped me notice that my breaths were incredibly shallow. When I inhaled, there was only a subtle movement at the top and center of my chest. She encouraged me to breathe into my diaphragm… and I didn’t know how. She invited me to lie on the floor with a book on my belly, just between my breasts and belly button. She told me to breathe deeply enough to move the book. Diaphragm located!

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I am all time fond of reading the blog, when I reached to this blog I wondered to read such informative article, it inspired me a lot thanks.

1:14PM PDT on Aug 11, 2011


5:57AM PDT on Aug 7, 2011

thanks...breathing is soothing ur system

11:26PM PDT on Aug 6, 2011

I hold my breath quite a bit, even go into panic attack at times. Summer is winding down here and school is about to begin and I am once again stuck in a job I hate with a passion. Sitting here thinking about it, I noticed I started holding my breath and then went into panic mode :( I really need to find a new job!!

9:53AM PDT on Aug 6, 2011

All I need is the air that I breathe in....

5:55AM PDT on Aug 5, 2011

oh boy I have a lot of breathing to do. lol

7:21PM PDT on Aug 4, 2011

i agree. breathing is more important than we know. now if i can just remember to breathe when it's needed the most.

6:26PM PDT on Aug 4, 2011

My mom noticed when I was young, I think pre-teen or so, that I had a tendency to hold my breath, particularly after I had exhaled; it would always take a couple seconds before I inhaled again. Being in choir I learned to use my diaphragm, but still to this day if I'm not consciously monitoring my breathing, I revert to shallow breathes with pauses. Guess I need to take out more time to fully change how I breathe!

2:54PM PDT on Aug 4, 2011

Hi I wonder how many of us breath-holders have experienced panic attacks? I know I have & it really affects my breathing & vice versa although I`m asthmatic too. I find brisk walking helps it makes you breathe rhymically & after about half an hour I feel calmer. My breathing oddity is worse when tired/stressed which doesnt help. Sleep more work less I say! :0))

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