Learning to Let Go

The skill of letting go can be learned; once learned, you will enjoy living more spontaneously.

Make the most of every experience: Meaning is essential. If this moment truly matters to you, you will experience it fully.

Don’t obsess over right and wrong decisions: The universe adapts to every decision you make. Right and wrong are only mental constructs.

Stop defending your self-image: To really feel good about yourself, renounce your self-image. Immediately you will find yourself being more open, undefended and relaxed. All self-images have the same pitfall—they keep reminding you of who you were, not who you are.

Go beyond risks: You can go beyond risks by knowing that there is infinite intelligence at work in the hidden dimension of your life. At this level your choices are always supported.

Make no decision when in doubt: When you are in doubt, put the universe on hold for a while. It favors no particular direction.

See the possibilities in whatever happens: If you don’t get what you expected or wished for, ask yourself, “Where am I supposed to look?” This is a very freeing attitude.

Find the stream of joy: Keep before you the vision of freeing your mind, and expect that when you succeed at doing this, you will be greeted by a stream of joy, a joy in existence, a joy that is free of any good or bad choices.

Adapted from The Book of Secrets by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 2004).

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Mark Bill
Past Member 8 months ago

I am actually delighted to read this post that carries countless of helpful information, thanks!!

Cheryl T.
Past Member 3 years ago

Great article, thank you. I shall certainly try and follow all of the tips.

Mari Garcia
Mari Garcia3 years ago

I am trying to get out of the "obessing over wrong decisions" mode.

heather g.
heather g.3 years ago

I read this with a sense of freedom - I understood Deepak saying that we needn't be stuck with our decisions ... perhaps about non-attachment to outcomes.

Nimue Pendragon
Nimue Pendragon3 years ago

Wise words as usual, thank you, Deepak :)

Krystal M.
Krystal M.3 years ago

"Right and wrong are only mental constructs."

I find that one personally difficult to get past.

Rosie Jolliffe
Rosie Lopez3 years ago

thank u!

Sarkku V.
Sarkku V.3 years ago

Good tips. Thanks!

Margarita G.
Margarita G.3 years ago

Really helpful, thanks!

Sije Dijkstra
Past Member 3 years ago

Thanks for the article.