Letting Go Emotionally

Emotions are more stubborn than thoughts. The glue that holds you fast to your beliefs and expectations is emotion. Whenever you tell yourself that you can’t let go, you are making an emotional statement.

In reality you can let go of any situation any time. “I can’t” really means, “I fear the emotional consequences if I do.” Your ego draws a line in the sand and insists that you will not survive the inner feelings that will arise if the line is crossed.

A powerful limitation is being self-imposed here, and at bottom it isn’t true. You will survive any emotion; indeed, whatever you consider to be too much fear, too much loss, too much humiliation, too much disapproval, too much rejection has already happened.

You have crossed the line many times, otherwise you wouldn’t know where to draw it. What your ego is really saying is that you can’t cross the line again. From spirit’s point of view, however, you don’t have to.

There is a law in the unconscious that whatever you avoid will come back, and the more you avoid it, the stronger its return.

Painful emotions don’t come back for external reasons. They return because they are part of you; you created them before pushing them away. Every emotion you experience is yours.

We all make the mistake of believing that something “out there” makes us afraid, angry, depressed, anxious, and so on. In truth events “out there” are only triggers. The cause of every emotion is “in here,” which means that inner work can heal it.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

314 comments

Lenee K.
Lenee K.3 years ago

hmmm, never strikes me as such, interesting

Natasha Salgado

thank you.

Gaby D.
Gaby D.3 years ago

G'dmorning Deepak....and all of us here, I read this post once again and the first two lines jumped out AGAIN! Emotions are more stubborn than thoughts. The glue that holds you fast to your beliefs and expectations is emotion. Whenever you tell yourself that you can’t let go, you are making an emotional statement." True! The emotions (fears) create the thought...I won't go there....because I'm scared that this or that will happen *AGAIN*!
Now the mind goes...so simpe solution....just don't do it! Problem solved!
Inside of me a voice says however, not true not true!! Although that will seemingly keep me safe from experiencing the 'feared emotion' it will also keep me well within my comfort zone.....which keeps me in a 'self imposed' prison.....away from new chances and opportunities.....fresh experiences etc. Yup, I've got to jump out of this box.....and go to feel the excitement of fresh, new experiences......trust that all is well and good! Stop these 'fearful' emotions...by replacing them with good and fun experiences. The only way there is to let go of the ego's hold on my life, the 'fearful' responses to what could be a grand opportunity- if only to experience a change of scenery! I need to return to the spontaneity of my younger years.....need to stop feeling afraid of people's reactions to my 'handicap'. Ok...I'm going to do it - out of the box I go!! Namaste!


Heather M
Heather Marv3 years ago

Makes sense.

Yulan Lawson
Yulan Lawson3 years ago

Well explained, thanking you.

Cindy L.
Cindy L.3 years ago

it is hard to be conscious of things that affect us and let go... but always worth the try until we "retrain" our mind and self to open up and let go. Difficult to do short term but with some willingness and work it can happen...

Norma V.
Norma Villarreal3 years ago

It's 'in here' for me to deal with and I am releasing all that stops me consciously and unconsciously. I have decades of baggage (physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual) to drop and it is an adventure!

Marie W.
Marie W.3 years ago

...cause of every emotion is “in here,”
Not if its another person hounding you.

Jane Warren
Jane Warren3 years ago

thnx for this

Michael Wecke
Michael Wecke3 years ago

The degree of one's emotions varies inversely with one's knowledge of the facts.
( Bertrand Russell )