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Life in a Harem (interview)

Life in a Harem (interview)

Listen to author  Jillian Lauren discuss her riveting New York Times best-selling memoir Some Girls: My Life in a Harem.  Exploring the nature of what it means to be female and sexual in our culture, and the emotional crossroads that bring many women into paid sexual work, her interview, like her book, is a breath of fresh air.  True to her commitment to share the whole truth of her experience, she boldly confronts the painful truths about her past with courage and wisdom.  Her insights into the meaning and practice of sex for money are hard won and worth hearing.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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4:17AM PDT on May 9, 2013

Thank you :)

6:48AM PST on Nov 29, 2011

The need for sex is a fundamental and primary psychological drive, and many men out there in the cold world lack the confidence to approach women, especially in this country where so many women hide behind massive social barriers and are extremely selective over whom they sleep with.

I am a woman but I fear this is sooo true!

Women now ask you have a tseady you own your you have medical coveradge....this is done in a diplomatic way but asked never the less.....

IF the man has all of these....then they..MAY....LET YOU TAKE HER OUT????

I have seen this scenario so many time the US.Uk ...Europe......

not suprising that men will mary asian girls.....they are not so...after your money!

I have travel the world for many years and it is sad to see the way young women behave now days and I try to coacch my grand daughters to look the person not his wallet!

1:25AM PST on Dec 17, 2010

It must awful to be some man treat, a toy, sexslave, having no worth I would rather drop dead then live in harem.

4:17AM PST on Dec 11, 2010

Can you read this paper free online like in an ebook?

5:30AM PST on Dec 8, 2010

I actually just finished reading the book. I was excited about the interview here but I would liked to have heard the author talking more then whoever was doing the interview.

4:48AM PST on Dec 8, 2010

horrible and disgusting

10:52PM PDT on Sep 14, 2010

Great content! However the interview became a little jarring to listen to as the interviewer kept interrupting and seemed to like the sound of her own voice. Some notes to keep in mind are: patience when waiting for a response/answer, keep asides to a minimum and let the interviewee speak.

7:12PM PDT on Sep 9, 2010

for some reason I find the idea of reading about a harem member's life say in the middle ages in Egypt or Turkey or something interesting, almost romantic..and yet reading about one's life 'now' seems disgusting.

4:19AM PDT on Sep 9, 2010

We need I feel to look at this topic from all sides.
As men go looking to buy sex, while women too make choices in this Hareem industry.
As women have many and varied views on what is applicable, and how far they wish/or not wish to explore themselves their bodies and their libido.

4:52AM PDT on Sep 1, 2010

Why do people say prostitution is here to stay? it has only been around since patriarchal social structures--that is only the last 2,000 years. But humans have been in complex civilizations and cooperative living structures for the last 50,000 years. Read BOOKS my friends.

If you don't have self esteem with women then go to a therapist and honestly look at yourself. If you are feeling sexual and you can't have sex then masterbate. Sex is beautiful and very powerful full of creativity and I don't just mean children. Men who buy sex from poor women with no options are committing violence against other women, sexual energy, and themselves.

Why do you think people who are anti-prostitution are anti-sex? i feel sorry for you that your ideas about sex are so limited and so harmful to others.

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