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Making Holidays Special for Your Elders

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Making Holidays Special for Your Elders

By Carol Bradley Bursack,

Even though holidays can be fraught with stress because of societal expectations that they be happy no matter what our circumstances, most of us have happy memories of celebrations when we were young. Our parents were in charge, and kids were the focus. As our parents age and can no longer be in charge of celebrations, the duties tend to fall to adult children.

Our heart’s desire is to provide a way for our aging parents to enjoy the holidays, but their circumstances can make that challenging. First and foremost, however, remember that it’s your presence that is the most important thing. That, and helping your parents to feel included in whatever way they can participate.

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For several years I had, along with my own home, two apartments and two nursing home rooms to decorate, plus the other duties, including holiday meals in several locations to consider. I did try to simplify life as much as possible, but I also wanted badly to do what I could for my elders. Was it enough? I did my best, is all I can say. And I did learn a few things.

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10:18AM PST on Dec 7, 2011

Thank you

4:23PM PST on Dec 6, 2011


3:31PM PST on Dec 4, 2011

We are not adult children, we are ADULTS now and therefore need to GROW UP!

My parents were adults when my memories were made and now I am an adult responsible for NOW and this is representative of why our country is the way it is.

You are not a child!!!!! not if you are over the age of 18 .... get over your crap and grow up, stand up and be what you are an ADULT.

Yeah I don't like it either but it is reality.

8:56PM PST on Dec 3, 2011

These are great but, what do you do when they don't remember what a holiday is anymore?

9:23PM PST on Dec 2, 2011

I'm an elder and shall email this to my children. Thank you.

9:04PM PST on Dec 2, 2011

I'm very fortunate that my elderly parents have never liked the commercial holiday called 'Christmas'. They played the game when we were kids, now feel like I do about it...which is that it's a time to lie low - send out a few cards and wait for the end of the year to recycle all the piles of ad papers.

2:18PM PST on Dec 2, 2011

thanks :)

1:38PM PST on Dec 2, 2011

Good advice,thanks.

8:49AM PST on Dec 2, 2011


8:47AM PST on Dec 2, 2011

When my Dad had to move into an Assisted Living facility, I spoke to a few of the residents in the common rooms and they all insisted that the most important thing to help my Dad adjust was to visit often.

My sister and I decorate his room for every holiday. The door is always decorated so that he can easily find his room. We also put a photo along with a short introduction, it's a great icebreaker for new and old residents!

Many of the seniors have few visitors, I encourage everyone to just smile and say hello to each of the seniors you pass in the hallways.

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Proved or proven ? Oops ! Excuse me for my broken english. I really make my best !

Thanks for sharing.

Great ideas for healthy additions.

Thanks for sharing! The cork one is cool; I'll try that one for sure!


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