What to Do When You Want Different Things in Bed

Youíre unstoppable, but your partnerís sex drive has flatlined. Or itís the reverse and youíre not feeling any fire-in-the-pants. Or you love sensual massage marathons, mood lighting, silk sheets, and 48 minutes of foreplay, but they are more of a wham-bam-lets-do-it-in-my-Dodge-Ram kind of person.

Those scenarios can be frustrating and confusing, so weíve collected a variety of articles from experts who can help.

Having read or watched all of this and more, here are three big take-aways we think everyone needs to remember:

  • If your loverís libido takes a nosedive, donít assume itís because theyíre no longer attracted to you. There are many causes that have nothing to do with you.
  • Talk about it in a supportive manner and learn whatís really going on.
  • See a professional if your relationship is suffering from loss of libido and you need additional help.

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Originally published on bedsider.org

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Lone Wolf
Lone W.1 years ago

Before accusing your partner of not loving you anymore because their libido is down, be sure to determine if they are not sick. Low or declining libido tends to be an early warning of health issues.

Fi T.
Fi T.1 years ago

Respect and talk it through

Duane B.
.1 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Doris G.
Doris G.1 years ago

thank you

ScoTT Senate
ScoTT S.2 years ago

Based on the title of the article, I thought it was about something else, like your partner suddenly wanting to try a new position. Be suspicious when that happens. It might mean he/she has learned it from someone else recently. "Just where did you learn this from?" And can you trust the answer you get?

Virginia Belder
Virginia Belder2 years ago


benson gitonga
benson gitonga2 years ago

now i know.

benson gitonga
benson gitonga2 years ago

nowbi know.

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen2 years ago

Thank you :)

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson2 years ago

thanks.. communication is SO important