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What to Do When You Want Different Things in Bed

What to Do When You Want Different Things in Bed

Youíre unstoppable, but your partnerís sex drive has flatlined. Or itís the reverse and youíre not feeling any fire-in-the-pants. Or you love sensual massage marathons, mood lighting, silk sheets, and 48 minutes of foreplay, but they are more of a wham-bam-lets-do-it-in-my-Dodge-Ram kind of person.

Those scenarios can be frustrating and confusing, so weíve collected a variety of articles from experts who can help.

Having read or watched all of this and more, here are three big take-aways we think everyone needs to remember:

  • If your loverís libido takes a nosedive, donít assume itís because theyíre no longer attracted to you. There are many causes that have nothing to do with you.
  • Talk about it in a supportive manner and learn whatís really going on.
  • See a professional if your relationship is suffering from loss of libido and you need additional help.

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10:45AM PST on Feb 16, 2014

Before accusing your partner of not loving you anymore because their libido is down, be sure to determine if they are not sick. Low or declining libido tends to be an early warning of health issues.

4:04AM PST on Feb 14, 2014

Respect and talk it through

10:09AM PST on Feb 13, 2014

Thank you for sharing.

4:00AM PST on Dec 19, 2013

thank you

4:22AM PDT on Oct 11, 2013

Based on the title of the article, I thought it was about something else, like your partner suddenly wanting to try a new position. Be suspicious when that happens. It might mean he/she has learned it from someone else recently. "Just where did you learn this from?" And can you trust the answer you get?

6:55PM PDT on Oct 10, 2013


2:31AM PDT on Oct 10, 2013

now i know.

2:30AM PDT on Oct 10, 2013

nowbi know.

2:30AM PDT on Sep 28, 2013

Thank you :)

10:37AM PDT on Sep 27, 2013

thanks.. communication is SO important

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