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6 Ways You Can Improve Your Sex Life

1. Research your pleasure. How can you expect your partner to know what pleases you if you donít know yourself? Set aside private time to explore your own body on your own. If you donít know what pleasures you, youíll never get in touch with your desires. Take the time to discover what feels good! When I interviewed Regena Thomashauer, author of Mama Genaís School of Womanly Arts for my book, she said, ďThereís a scene in the Julia Roberts movie Runaway Bride where someone asks her what kind of eggs she likes, but she doesnít know. When she dated a guy who liked scrambled eggs, she ate scrambled eggs. When he liked fried eggs, she ate hers fried. When he liked hard-boiled, she ate hard-boiled. In one scene, she finally lines them up and tastes them all, so she can make a decision, independent of any man. You can run this kind of experiment with her own body. Taste. Touch. Experiment. Discover.Ē

2. Stop trying to be something youíre not and OWN who you are. If your Catholic guilt makes you think you should be the demure, quiet, Madonna wife but youíre really a freak who likes to get wild, OWN IT! If you partner wants you to dress up in a cheerleader uniform and youíre just not into it, say so. Bringing your authentic self into the bedroom will work wonders for your sex life.

3. Take responsibility for getting your needs met. If youíre still waiting for Prince Charming to show up and blow your mind, you might spend your whole life waiting. Get in touch with what you need and be creative about ways to have your needs met. One patient of mine is a vital sexual being in a loving, happy marriage who wasnít getting all of her sexual needs met, so she joined an online forum and started secretly writing erotica on the internet. It fed the hungry part of her and brought new passion into the sex life she shared with her husband.

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at† and also created two online communities -† and† She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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8:43PM PDT on Mar 29, 2014

Interesting.Very interesting.One more for the teenage boys to discuss and chuckle about. .Dimitris I hope your luck changes soon.

12:31AM PST on Jan 2, 2014

Thank you :)

2:56AM PST on Nov 3, 2013

Ooh la la... I have to find a partner first :)

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7:14AM PDT on Oct 20, 2013

Over the past several years, my wife has been on a journey of sexual self-discovery. By not being jealous, I have found that I can enjoy her journey enormously. Although I never meant to be judgemental, I was still surprised at my positive response to watching her have sex with other men or women. Adn when she did so in a more private way, I enjoyed hearing what had pleased her during those encounters. Our own sex life has been enhanced to a degree I never thought would be possible.

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6:55PM PDT on Jun 29, 2013

Bookmarking this one...

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2:27AM PDT on Jun 17, 2013

Thank you :)

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