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Our True Identity

Our True Identity

Many identities are simply false.

Identity is subtle because it takes no thought. By osmosis you absorb one influence after another, until the voices in your head, the opinions you automatically spout, the list of likes and dislikes that are stored away in memory, all become second nature. It takes thought and intelligence to scrape away these encrusted judgments, for they are judgments born of choice.

An infant may have no choice but to absorb influences as if by osmosis, out of the air, so to speak. But by a very early age we all formed a critical faculty; the choice-maker inside us has been a conscious mechanism ever since.

For me as an individual to be free, I have to confront myself with questions about who I really am, and this is done in large part by examining the layers of false identity that I mistakenly call me. The practical side of this process comes down to one very simple question that happens to grow a thousand arms, like a mental octopus.

Am I thinking for myself?

Or am I thinking like: a typical Indian; a typical doctor; a typical Californian; a typical American; a typical middle-aged male; a typical person at my income level.

Like it or not, we are all typical. We attach some part of our identity to external groups and status. We identify with money and possession, success and failure. These are the outer layering of the false self, the typical reactions that I think are my own but really belong to a whole type of person.

Adapted from: Peace Is the Way, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2005).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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4:43AM PDT on May 22, 2012

I have always maintained that a big part of our self image not only comes from our immediate families but from stories of our ancestors. Still, we, as modern beings, have the right and opportunity to break molds, defy traditions and strive for greater and greater freedoms. We are powerful creators and have the ability to deliberately create anew each moment of our lives (and perhaps beyond).

9:37AM PDT on May 21, 2012


7:51AM PDT on May 21, 2012

I don't agree. Rather than be weird, one should conform to some standard of behavoiur.

5:10AM PDT on May 21, 2012

Thanks Deepak.

5:00PM PST on Jan 6, 2012

We are at the core God consciousness becoming all things. Anything that can be named is transient, impermanent, and lacks necessity for imitation.

1:20AM PST on Jan 6, 2012

Thanks for sharing

7:54PM PST on Jan 5, 2012

Doesn't the collective consciousness kinda mandate that we become all that surrounds us?

9:35AM PDT on May 27, 2011


5:20PM PST on Dec 14, 2010

It has taken me a long time but it starts with awareness and then getting in the habit of remembering to stay in that mode. Thank you

4:17PM PST on Dec 13, 2010

A lot to think about...

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