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Overcoming Underdreaming: Part 1

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Overcoming Underdreaming: Part 1

I got the most adorable email from one of my Get Out Of Your Own Way students the other day, and I just had to share it with you.

I just read my Daily Flame email today and at the bottom, you’ve got a blurb promoting Barbara Stanny’s Overcoming Underearning: A Five-Step Plan To A Richer Life.

When I first glanced at it, I read it as Overcoming Underdreaming… interesting :) I just thought I’d share this with you because it seemed so fitting.

Interesting, indeed!  Her email inspired me to write a post for those who want to overcome underdreaming!

Another student, who is trying to decide where in the world she wants to settle down, agreed. “Yeah, I have the same problem. Why can’t I dream of having three home bases?”

Because so many women tend to underdream, I included a whole module in the Get Out Of Your Own Way e-course about how to dream big, but this has brought up some angst from students who say they’re having a hard time dreaming big.

Here’s an excerpt from that module.

7 Barriers That Prevent You From Dreaming Big

  1. You lack practice at dreaming big. Dreaming big is a muscle that must get exercised in order to function properly. If you’ve never let yourself charge, unthrottled, into the fully formed fantasies of your imagination, you’ll wind up fidgeting and coming up empty when you’re invited to dream big.
  2. You lack confidence. You don’t trust your ability to create the life you desire, so you protect yourself by not dreaming.
  3. You’re too practical. You’ve lost your ability to engage in child-like fantasies, a skill we all master as kids and often lose as adults.
  4. You’ve internalized the criticisms of others. If you’re surrounded by people who cut you down, dismiss you, and lack faith in you, it’s no wonder your dreaming big muscle is weak.
  5. You don’t believe you deserve to have your real dreams come true. If you hold limiting beliefs about your worth and value, you will find it very hard to dream big.
  6. You fear failure or the sting of disappointment. If you dream big, you risk having your real dreams fizzle. If your real dreams fizzle, you may get bummed out. So you may avoid dreaming big just to protect yourself from disappointment.
  7. You worry about what everybody will think. If you dream big — and then you tell everyone, perhaps they’ll shoot you down. They’ll make fun of you. They’ll dismiss your real dreams. They’ll tell you you’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, talented enough, driven enough. Ouch. No wonder you don’t dream big.
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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.  She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.  Lissa blogs at and also created two online communities - and She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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8:30PM PDT on Aug 6, 2011


8:54PM PDT on Jun 29, 2011

I love that we are the ones to decide how much joy we want

4:35PM PDT on Jun 19, 2011

This artlicle reinforces my determination in life. After my husband passed away I was pretty much left alone to sort life out. I must say at 47 years of age, I totally changed my outlook. I became bold, daring and didn't care what people said. I started a new career, made a business venture and realized the confidence I had in myself. It was a dream of proving that I could do it. With positive thoughts and the Law of Attraction I have become successful, at least in my eyes-guess that is all that counts!

6:10PM PDT on Jun 12, 2011

Thanks for the information.

12:17AM PDT on Jun 9, 2011

Thank you for the enjoyable article. I tend to tell people beforehand what I plan to do and when I've achieved my goal (or my dream has come true) some people, being negative, have openly said "She'll never do that". By that time, I've already done it. It takes perseverance and a lot of work to make many dreams come true. By the same token, some of my most persistent wishes and some of my strongest desires or dreams have alluded me in my life. Hope is still very much alive, because tomorrow could bring the change I pursue ....

4:33PM PDT on Jun 5, 2011

I feel like I've spent my whole life dreaming about things that people around think are crazy. lol

6:36AM PDT on Jun 3, 2011

For thouse of you that dont dream big. GO FOR IT! so what if the dream dont come tru at least you had it and tried. If it does come true WoHoo it came true you didnt dream big enough. Dont listen to negitivity, if your friends put you down for dreaming they are really just holding you back. look for people that will encourage you and inspire you to try harder and do more. SO what if you fail at a dream its no big deal it was a dream they all dont come true but when they do hold on and enjoy the ride. My momma always told me you can do anything you want, it may take a while to learn or get every thing it takes to make it happen but if you try you can do it. But only if you try, giving up before you try will never make it happen. Open your eyes spread your wilgs and do it. I dare ya!

2:25AM PDT on Jun 3, 2011

Great article, thank you!

9:27AM PDT on Jun 2, 2011

Interesting article BUT I dont dream...probably do but dont remenber them...but then my life has been a happy one so that might be the teason...

Either way...I will not loose sleep over it....he...he...

8:01PM PDT on May 31, 2011

Interesting. Thanks for the post.

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