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Parents Unconcerned About Kids on Facebook?

We Need Guidelines

Here’s a start:

  1. Get Involved — We can no longer have parents riding the naive wave. Whatever technology your child is using, you need to be familiar enough with it to be able to protect and guide them. It’s part of your role as a parent.
  2. Create a Firm Age Limit — Why did Facebook set their age limit at 13? Wouldn’t it benefit them if every child on the planet had a page? I’d guess they’ve done their research, consulted their professionals, and the lawyers. They didn’t throw a dart and come up with 13. And from the social technology battles I see going on in nearly every family I know, I’d say age 13 should be a minimum for all social media — yes, even texting. When Henry Ford made it possible for everyone to have a car, we quickly learned the value of having a driving age limit. Just because we have a new technology DOESN’T entitle our child to it. Is your child truly prepared to handle sexting, bullying, group bashing, any more than drugs, alcohol, driving or guns? If so, what is the great need to expose them to it? What are they gaining? Convenience? Popularity?
  3. Your Child Will Not Be “Technologically Behind” – Don’t Fall For That Argument! -- I agree that the coming generations have to become familiar and comfortable with technology but they should be exposed to it at appropriate times and with sensitivity. Texting, Facebook, email: all of these things take very little “knowledge” to learn and use. My daughter is not going to be “behind” if we wait four more years to give her texting. In fact, she’ll probably end up “ahead” if she spends that time learning to communicate in person, a huge concern industry already has with its future work force. She’s already learning how to use educational sites and the numerous iPad applications (no, not Angry Birds) to improve and aid her in her goals. I’m sure she’ll be as capable as her grandmother was when the time comes to set up her own Facebook page.
  4. Use Technology for Your Highest Good — All of us, not only our children, should only add technology to our lives if it’s a positive addition. Is it really worth having that electronic tablet if it’s bringing stress, eating up your productive time, or drawing negative energy into your life? Choose only those gadgets and outlets that are for the user’s highest good.
  5. Don’t Send What You Wouldn’t Say — Everyone who communicates electronically should understand the power of having “a censor panel.” If your kid is unwilling to share every communication they send out with you, their principal, and The Almighty Himself, that’s a sign it should NOT BE SENT. We’ve got to break this horrible habit of electronically saying things we would never speak.

So share with us: do you have a problem with parents whose kids are “chatting” it up on Facebook with no supervision? Is it a parent’s responsibility to monitor and instill appropriate behavior? Is it the government’s responsibility? Both? Have you had a horrible experience with your child on Facebook, texting, or emailing? What guidelines would you like to set?

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Monica Wilcox is a blogger for Owning Pink, parent, environmental activist, and co-founder of Femme Tales: Truth With Humor.

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6:40AM PST on Feb 4, 2012

Where did we fail in educating today's parents?

6:56PM PST on Dec 1, 2011


10:31AM PDT on Jul 17, 2011

facebook used incorrectly can ruin a person's life.

4:31AM PDT on Jul 6, 2011

Seems that legislation is less critical than spending time with a child to talk about appropriate communication.

2:27PM PDT on Jun 16, 2011

Are we really passing the buck again? REALLY? FYI! We should be the ones (parents) to be teaching our children how to behave AT ALL TIME but how many parents send their little one to pre-school,day-care,babysitter? How's really respondsable for how are childre behave? the parents! They may TRY to pass the buck but the buck stops with them...if they don't spend time with their children is it FACEBOOKS fault? No. The networks? No. It is the parents so suck it up and be the adults you should be and love your children enough to actually spend some time WITH them.

5:30AM PDT on Jun 6, 2011

Yea, It's really sad sometimes

8:20PM PDT on May 17, 2011


12:01PM PDT on May 17, 2011

I could not believe that text the kid received from a girl. Kids can't be kids, society does not allow them to be.

3:29PM PDT on May 16, 2011


11:07AM PDT on May 16, 2011

I hate texting. I never had a cell phone in high school (and I just graduated 2 years ago) and I survived just fine. I am so sick of kids my age constantly texting, during class, conversations with other people, during movies...ugh. I deactivated my facebook account because I got tired of the gossip and displays of narcissm. I appreciate the power technology has to create positive change in the world, but I am also tired of the way it is misused by many people.

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