Predictors Of A Cheating Partner

Wouldnít it be great if we could predict if our lovers/spouses were likely to be unfaithful? Maybe we could track warning signs from the get-go and avoid the heartbreak most of us have experienced at some point or other in our lives.

Of course, itís never that easy, but†a new study identifies traits that make people more likely to cheat.

Are you one of them? Is your partner?

This study examined 918 men and women – (23% of the men and 19% of the women had cheated in their current relationship.† Makes you wonder how many had ever cheated on a partner. Kinda scary, eh?)† While prior studies focused on demographics (age, prior cheating episodes, socioeconomic status, job types), this study focused on personality factors and relationship issues.

So what personality characteristics might predict infidelity?

Predictors of Infidelity: The Dudes

Your guy is more likely to cheat if:

  • He has sexual performance anxiety
  • Heís a risk-taker
  • Heís easily sexually aroused

Predictors of Infidelity: The Ladies

Your girl is more likely to cheat if:

  • Sheís unhappy or unsatisfied in her relationship with you
  • She feels sexually incompatible with you

Fascinating, eh? So why is that?

My Guess At Why These Factors Might Make Guys More Likely To Cheat

Well, one can only guess that if a guy feels inhibited in the bedroom – and maybe has a hard time, you know, getting Mr. Friendly to stand at attention, he might seek out new, more stimulating sexual situations to prove to himself that his equipment still works. (After all, if youíre doing your secretary on the desk you just swept clean with the back of your hand, you might be more likely to get it up than if youíre home with your wife on the bed youíve shared with her for 30 years.)

Or maybe the guy with performance anxiety just figures that if he canít get it up with the waitress from Hooters, he probably never has to see her again – and can be spared the embarrassment he feels whenever heís with his girlfriend and has issues.

Itís pretty obvious that risk takers might be more likely to cheat, but the easily sexually aroused predictor is interesting, eh? So, if heís hot and horny, and he gets a boner every time a pretty girl walks by, maybe heís more likely to just go for it. Who knows?

So What About Her?

Having encountered many cheating women in my practice as an OB/GYN (and yes, they often contract sexually transmitted diseases, which is why they wind up in my office), these predictive factors donít surprise me at all. If a woman feels happy, sexually satisfied, and compatible in the bedroom with her partner, sheís unlikely to look elsewhere. Which is why we get so frustrated, disappointed, pissed off, and shocked when the same guy – the one whoís happy, sexually satisfied and compatible with us – winds up cheating. Turns out that what keeps us faithful just isnít the same as what keeps the guys faithful.

But when a woman feels sexually restless, unsatisfied in bed, and emotionally disconnected from her partner, sheís at much greater risk of straying.

What Can We Do About It?

So what if your guy has performance anxiety, loves bungee jumping, and flirts with every creature with boobs? Or what if your woman isnít having orgasms, has expressed dissatisfaction in the bedroom, and complains of feeling emotionally distant? What can you do to keep your partner faithful?

Tips For Keeping Your Partner Faithful

  • Talk about it. Keep open lines of communication and try to avoid getting defensive if your partner admits to considering cheating.
  • Accentuate the positive. If all you do is complain, your partner is more likely to go elsewhere to feel good.
  • Have sex. Sexless – or nearly sexless relationships (usually defined as less than six sexual encounters per year) just donít work. Period.
  • Be compassionate if your partner experiences performance anxiety. You can be sure itís even more stressful for him than it is for you.
  • Date your long-term lover. Donít let the romance die just because youíve been together for awhile.
  • Attend to her sexual needs. Ask her what she likes. Go out of your way to satisfy her.
  • Spice it up. Communicate about what turns you both on. If sex feels racy at home, youíre less likely to seek it elsewhere.
  • Laugh. Have fun. Be playful.
  • Deal with anger and resentment. Donít let it build up. Get thee to a counselor early if need be.
  • Be loving. Cuddle. Use terms of endearment. Say ďI love you.Ē It builds emotional connection.

What About You?

Have you ever cheated? (If you have, read this) Has anyone ever cheated on you? Did you see warning signs? Any predictors youíve noticed? Tell us your stories!

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Lissa Rankin, MD: Founder of†,†Pink Medicine Revolutionary,†motivational speaker, and author of†Whatís Up Down There? Questions Youíd Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend and Encaustic Art: The Complete Guide To Creating Fine Art With Wax.

Learn more about†Lissa Rankin here.


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Teresa W.
Teresa W.about a year ago

oops, I've already commented on this article...

Jenna Summers
Jennifer B.1 years ago

Its pretty easy to tell if you are being cheated on. And you don't have to go snooping through your partner's cell phone or email to figure it out either. Also, I don't think it's fair to say that someone's personality influences whether they will cheat or not.

Sheri J.
Sheri J.1 years ago

I am not responding to anyone's comment but here's something to ponder upon. If you do not want to work on your relationship then it will suffer because your partner can not do 100% of the work for you, themselves, and the relationship. If you do not want to work on your relationship, then do not be in one. You think relationships when it is in trouble it fixes themselves? No it does not, the problem is still there. Run away from your problems and your problems follow you wherever you go.
You want to have an affair? You may think the grass is greener on the other side BUT it still needs to be mowed. You have a problem with your wife so you go out and get a mistress and then find out you need to keep your mistress happy so now you have 3 problems - you have a problem with yourself, your spouse, and your mistress. How many more problems do you want to add on your list?

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen2 years ago

Thank you :)

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Jennifer L.
Jennifer L.2 years ago

I don't like that it's called "tips to keeping your partner faithful," it almost seems like blaming someone for getting cheating on. But aside from that, these really are good tips to keep a relationship healthy and exciting.