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Predictors Of A Cheating Partner

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My Guess At Why These Factors Might Make Guys More Likely To Cheat

Well, one can only guess that if a guy feels inhibited in the bedroom – and maybe has a hard time, you know, getting Mr. Friendly to stand at attention, he might seek out new, more stimulating sexual situations to prove to himself that his equipment still works. (After all, if youíre doing your secretary on the desk you just swept clean with the back of your hand, you might be more likely to get it up than if youíre home with your wife on the bed youíve shared with her for 30 years.)

Or maybe the guy with performance anxiety just figures that if he canít get it up with the waitress from Hooters, he probably never has to see her again – and can be spared the embarrassment he feels whenever heís with his girlfriend and has issues.

Itís pretty obvious that risk takers might be more likely to cheat, but the easily sexually aroused predictor is interesting, eh? So, if heís hot and horny, and he gets a boner every time a pretty girl walks by, maybe heís more likely to just go for it. Who knows?

So What About Her?

Having encountered many cheating women in my practice as an OB/GYN (and yes, they often contract sexually transmitted diseases, which is why they wind up in my office), these predictive factors donít surprise me at all. If a woman feels happy, sexually satisfied, and compatible in the bedroom with her partner, sheís unlikely to look elsewhere. Which is why we get so frustrated, disappointed, pissed off, and shocked when the same guy – the one whoís happy, sexually satisfied and compatible with us – winds up cheating. Turns out that what keeps us faithful just isnít the same as what keeps the guys faithful.

But when a woman feels sexually restless, unsatisfied in bed, and emotionally disconnected from her partner, sheís at much greater risk of straying.

What Can We Do About It?

So what if your guy has performance anxiety, loves bungee jumping, and flirts with every creature with boobs? Or what if your woman isnít having orgasms, has expressed dissatisfaction in the bedroom, and complains of feeling emotionally distant? What can you do to keep your partner faithful?

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at†LissaRankin.com and also created two online communities -†HealHealthCareNow.com and†OwningPink.com. She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.

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6:19AM PDT on Jul 12, 2014

oops, I've already commented on this article...

1:50AM PST on Dec 8, 2013

Its pretty easy to tell if you are being cheated on. And you don't have to go snooping through your partner's cell phone or email to figure it out either. Also, I don't think it's fair to say that someone's personality influences whether they will cheat or not.

1:44AM PST on Dec 8, 2013

I am not responding to anyone's comment but here's something to ponder upon. If you do not want to work on your relationship then it will suffer because your partner can not do 100% of the work for you, themselves, and the relationship. If you do not want to work on your relationship, then do not be in one. You think relationships when it is in trouble it fixes themselves? No it does not, the problem is still there. Run away from your problems and your problems follow you wherever you go.
You want to have an affair? You may think the grass is greener on the other side BUT it still needs to be mowed. You have a problem with your wife so you go out and get a mistress and then find out you need to keep your mistress happy so now you have 3 problems - you have a problem with yourself, your spouse, and your mistress. How many more problems do you want to add on your list?

7:37PM PDT on Jul 24, 2013

Thank you :)

2:31AM PDT on Jul 24, 2013

interesting

7:59AM PDT on Jul 23, 2013

Thanks

5:40AM PDT on Jul 22, 2013

thanks

8:11PM PDT on Jul 4, 2013

forwarded

2:49PM PDT on Mar 14, 2013

I don't like that it's called "tips to keeping your partner faithful," it almost seems like blaming someone for getting cheating on. But aside from that, these really are good tips to keep a relationship healthy and exciting.

9:09PM PDT on Aug 12, 2012

good info thanks.

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