What Triggers You to React? Questionnaire

Sometimes someone hits an insecurity we have and invokes anger, sadness, or some other feeling; when that happens, we must always remember that anything we feel is okay. But we do have the opportunity to control how we respond: it is the action we take that counts. Our jailer, reactivity, is also our path to freedom. By acknowledging our reactivity and how we maintain our dramas, we have the opportunity to examine, and ultimately let go of, the negative core beliefs that empower them.

This questionnaire will help you to learn more about your own ways of reacting. It can help us to respond to situations instead of blindly reacting to them. In responding, we are aware of ourselves, any reactive emotions we might be feeling, and the reality of the situation at hand. It is about making choices instead of reacting. How do you react? What triggers you? Look at the questionnaire here:

1. What circumstances can really get you upset or cause you to emotionally shut down?

2. What specific things can another human being do or say (short of physical harm) in order to immediately frustrate you or hurt your feelings?

3. What everyday circumstances make you tense, upset, or angry?

4. How often do you blame others for how you feel?

5. How often do you have emotional reactions “just because,” with no real understanding of why you reacted?

6. Do you simply accept that this reactivity is part of who you are?

7. Have you ever questioned the reasoning behind your actions?

Check out this helpful book for more ways of thinking about responding rather than reacting. The life you change may be your own!

Adapted from Present Moment Awareness, by Shannon Duncan (New World Library, 2003). Copyright (c) 2003 by Shannon Duncan. Reprinted by permission of New World Library.
Adapted from Present Moment Awareness, by Shannon Duncan (New World Library, 2003).

18 comments

LMj Sunshine

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K s Goh
KS Goh5 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Aruna Swain
Aruna Swain5 years ago

If only I knew How to answer all these questions I would be in a much better place....ha ha

Mari Basque
Mari 's5 years ago

When humans kill each other and the environment. That's what gets me upset. Until people awaken and face reality they will still be attempting to kill me and my environment so.... this serious matter needs to be addressed and not ignored. We need people to face reality.

Janice P.
Janice P.5 years ago

I have realized (with the help of a friend) that something that triggers my emotions is an instance when a friend's life is going down the tubes and, no matter what help I offer, that person will ignore or reject it. I have come to discover that I became more worried about saving that friend's life than he/she does, because I was unable to save my own mother's life. Subconsciously, I have been operating under the illusion that, perhaps, if I can save my friend's life, it will make up for not having been able to save my mother's life. It is an exercise in futility, and it only ends up harming the person trying to help the hapless friend.

I have also come to learn that no amount of caring or struggle will allow you to save another person from him/herself. That was a VERY hard lesson to learn.

Korey M.
Korey Menden5 years ago

I feel stressed when I do something wrong/right & I have to change. Probably has to do with the ring of fierce contradicting thoughts that reoccur daily, I'm working on not thinking at all, unless I'm working. Still then I'll limit my thinking to one topic or focus.