Relationship Problems

The psychological problems we have in a relationship are the shadow side of our spiritual potential. There is no clear division between the psychological and the spiritual, only a distinction.

Here is a fascinating chart that shows the connection between the personal and spiritual sides of our psyches and between our personal and transpersonal partnerships, too. If you are having a problem in a relationship, what is the spiritual longing behind it? Find out here:

Psychological Problem = Spiritual Potential:
The Symptom = What Is Ready to Happen

Fear of abandonment = Facing the wilderness within

Fear of engulfment = Surrendering to a higher power

Self-centeredness = Opening to the spiritual Self

Refusal to do inner work = Opening to one’s calling

Retaliating = Self-forgiveness

Arrogant ego = Readiness for humility

Addiction = Search for spirit, readiness to receive

Jealousy = Ready for sufficiency of grace

Infidelity = Search for the anima/animus

Rigid boundaries = Protection of the inner world

Loose boundaries = Openness to grace and unity

Adapted from How to Be An Adult in Relationships, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2002). Copyright (c) 2002 by David Richo. Reprinted by permission of Shambhala.
Adapted from How to Be An Adult in Relationships, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2002).

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Robert German
Past Member 1 years ago

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Victor M.
Victor M.3 years ago


Jane Barton
Jane Barton3 years ago

I gave up relationships too. Relationships just don't work for any length of time (Newt Gingrich) and the woman usually does more "giving" than the man (while he's out banging some whore: quote from Almighty God's Holy Sacred BuyBull) and the man dumps her when she gets sick.
For women, relationships just aren't worth it.

Chad A.
Chad Anderson3 years ago

Some of this feels like it was written just for me! I need to do some relationship work and this looks like a creative and insightful support.

K s Goh
KS Goh3 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Michele Wilkinson

Thank you

Zee Kallah
.4 years ago

I gave up relationships last time I got free of one.

I am so much happier! Think I'll leave it this way.

SuSanne Dawn P.


Geetha Subramaniam

Interesting. Thanks.

Robert O.
Robert O.4 years ago

Interesting to think about. Thanks.