The psychological problems we have in a relationship are the shadow side of our spiritual potential. There is no clear division between the psychological and the spiritual, only a distinction.
Here is a fascinating chart that shows the connection between the personal and spiritual sides of our psyches and between our personal and transpersonal partnerships, too. If you are having a problem in a relationship, what is the spiritual longing behind it? Find out here:
Psychological Problem = Spiritual Potential:
The Symptom = What Is Ready to Happen
Fear of abandonment = Facing the wilderness within
Fear of engulfment = Surrendering to a higher power
Self-centeredness = Opening to the spiritual Self
Refusal to do inner work = Opening to one’s calling
Retaliating = Self-forgiveness
Arrogant ego = Readiness for humility
Addiction = Search for spirit, readiness to receive
Jealousy = Ready for sufficiency of grace
Infidelity = Search for the anima/animus
Rigid boundaries = Protection of the inner world
Loose boundaries = Openness to grace and unity
Adapted from How to Be An Adult in Relationships, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2002). Copyright (c) 2002 by David Richo. Reprinted by permission of Shambhala.
Adapted from How to Be An Adult in Relationships, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2002).