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Relationship Reboot: Unplug and Unwind

Relationship Reboot: Unplug and Unwind

Relationship Reboot: Put Down the Laptop

Tell me if this sounds like a familiar scenario in your home: you get back from work and turn on the TV while you make dinner. You and your significant other watch your favorite show while eating, then retreat to either side of the couch to finish up some work and answer a few emails. By the time you look up from your screens, you realize it’s almost time for bed. You check Twitter in bed before setting your phones down and turning off the light.

If you’re like me, you probably find yourself feeling disconnected from your partner the more you’re connected to everything and everyone else on your downtime. Of course, life happens and it’s not always feasible to spend an entire evening looking deep into each other’s eyes, but it’s impossible to ignore the fact that staring at a little screen all night has an effect on your relationship.

In fact, back in 2005, a study suggested that cell-phone usage can have a negative impact on stress levels and relationship satisfaction—and remember, this was two years before iPhones could suck you into a three-hour game of Angry Birds.

So, your challenge this week? Make a pact with your partner to spend the weekend unwinding together…and then figure out how to make that actually happen. Hire a babysitter. Make sure that work project is finished up by Friday afternoon. Do a little housework during the week so you can skip it this weekend (…or just skip it entirely. We won’t tell). Then, when Friday night rolls around, unplug.

Of course, the point of this exercise isn’t to bore you to death together—if you love watching a favorite show together or playing an online game, knock yourselves out. But keep the focus on time spent together, without the distraction of checking your emails in the middle of movie, without reaching for your cell phone the second you wake up, and without acting, however unintentionally, like your gadgets take priority.

And the best part of having a few gadget-free hours this weekend? It may give you some extra time for another relationship reboot…like making a bucket list together, or crossing something off of it.

More Relationship Reboots:
Make a Bucket List Together
Recreate the First Date

Read more: Dating, Love, Relationships

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Diana Vilibert

Diana Vilibert is a freelance writer living in Brooklyn. You can be blog-friends with her at dianavilibert.com, or tweet her at @dianavilibert.

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9:05AM PDT on Jun 21, 2012

thanks

7:09AM PDT on May 28, 2012

WE TEXT IN BED NEXT TO EACH OTHER AND THEN HAVE SEX AFTER...

10:45AM PDT on May 19, 2012

Bra!
Det er en glimrende ide.

5:05AM PDT on May 17, 2012

Good article, thanks...

9:36PM PDT on Apr 25, 2012

We like to play cooperative video games :) Like playing on a team for Gears of War. The TV's on, but it requires communication and working together. Plus when you beat a game, it's pretty satisfying!

2:15PM PDT on Apr 22, 2012

Yep. Good idea.

2:54AM PDT on Apr 20, 2012

Thanks for info

6:48AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

Thanks.

4:02AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

Thanks.

12:41AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

Thanks for the info

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One quibble with the article (it is a good one...) there is a difference between "taking charge" and…

Trying to be right all the time. I'm tellin' you it's tough.

Been there done that - cared for...and it isn't easy.... Thank you for the reminder.:)

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