I love SARK. Really, I do.
Lovely, bubbly, funny and wildly original, SARK has a way of viewing life – and our daily experiences– that is downright fabulous.
I was first introduced to SARK, best-selling author, artist and transformational teacher, at one of her fantastic sessions at Celebrate Your Life in Phoenix in November 2009. I recently had the opportunity to sit down and have tea with her in San Francisco and a delightful conversation ensued. Here are excerpts from our tete-a-tete.
Care2: You offer something called “couching”. What is it and how does it work?
SARK: It’s my own unique blend of therapy, mentoring, and coaching. I was bored with the word coaching, and I knew it needed to be a SARK word. It came to me in a dream, as most good things do, why don’t I offer ‘couching’? Most changes take place really swiftly with a relaxed mind, so when I work with people over the phone we are both usually laying down, whether it is on a couch or a bed.
Do you remember as a child when you would be with a friend and someone needed to get over the fence, and you would lace your hands together and they would put their foot in it and you would help them up over the fence? That is what I feel like I do with couching. I am like the ‘fence-booster’.
C2: What is the most common issue people are dealing with?
Fear of starting. Fear of continuing. Fear of living what I call a dry, cracked life – the opposite of living a juicy life.
People have ‘adventure amnesia’. They know something is missing but they don’t know what it is. And it is the sense of adventure. Because we are meant to have adventures every day. We are meant to go out like full cups of love, sharing overflow with everything and everyone we meet. And of course, we don’t always feel that way.
I teach and practice processes to assist when we don’t feel that way, just as much as when we do. Because we can learn from when we don’t feel that way, just as much as when we do.
One of the practices I do is called miracle walks. I recommend that people go out of their houses or offices, put hands up open palms and say ‘Miracle find me now.’ And then start walking and notice what happens. I do these all of the time and I have endless stories of miracles. Because the miracles are so excited to come and find someone to play with. And often we are rushing around when we walk or are doing errands or are on some sort of exercise vigil and there is no time to be looking or breathing or stopping anywhere.
I leave notes for people at houses or in gardens that say, “I love your garden. I’m a wonderful person, would you like to invite me to tea?” I’ve gone to so many wonderful houses and gardens. Wouldn’t you love to receive an invitation like that?
So extending surprising invitations to people instead of just walking around thinking that there is nothing fun going on or no adventures here.
The other day I was walking on one of my miracle walks and found what I thought was a crumpled piece of paper in the crook of a tree and it turned out to be a ten-dollar bill. So I proved that money grows on trees.