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Science of Sex: What’s Your Type?

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So it seems like our “type” may actually reflect a desire to date someone that’s similar to us, or perhaps our idealized and romanticized self. Our quest for sameness goes even further than just college stats and muscle mass. Although scientists can pinpoint general traits that make someone attractive (strong jaw, physical fitness, etc.), studies have shown that we tend to be attracted to those who look like we do. That’s because people want a mate that looks familiar—like their parents or even themselves. In one example, David Perrett, a researcher at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland, showed students faces of the opposite sex and asked them to rate them on attractiveness. For one of the faces, he used a picture of the student and morphed it into the opposite sex. Of all the faces to choose from, the students almost always preferred the face that was essentially their own.

Opposites Attract?
We might balk at the narcissism and point to plenty of couples that don’t look alike or share similar backgrounds. But credentials don’t really describe a person’s personality. That’s what Dr. Helen Fischer, an anthropologist and consultant for Chemistry.com, tries to do in her most recent book, Why Him? Why Her? In it, she constructs four different temperaments, based on hormones and neurochemicals, which explain why certain types are attracted to others.

Instead of just looking at things like socioeconomic background and basic interests, Fischer comes up with four main personality types. The Explorer, ruled by high dopamine levels, is a risk-taker, seeks adventure and novelty, and is curious. The Builder has high serotonin activity and is calm, likes schedules and roles, and is conventional. The Director is influenced by testosterone and is focused, analytical, and logical, while the Negotiator has high estrogen activity, sees the big picture, and is compassionate, altruistic, and imaginative.

People can fall into more than one type, but Dr. Fisher contends that while couples may have similarities, they also have traits that complement each other. In Fisher’s view, personality type doesn’t always follow the “like attracts like” situation—Explorers are drawn to Explorers, but Directors and Negotiators tend to pair up well, too

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1:36AM PST on Feb 25, 2015

I don't have a type

3:41AM PST on Feb 23, 2015

After 50 years of trying to get it right and scaling down my idealistic expectations I am resigned to being happily single because when all is said and done
"We remain in the laps of the Gods" as far as partners are concerned....and they all disappear when you need them the most....maybe the answer is to use abuse and hold in contempt !!??
but that wouldn't sit right with my idealistic nature and desires ... Romeo and Juliet in my sixties I think not but ???...

10:59AM PST on Feb 20, 2015

Thanks

2:06AM PST on Feb 16, 2015

Narcissism: the one word that qualify us best...

8:21AM PST on Feb 15, 2015

There is no accounting for taste, and there is no rule for success.

6:21AM PST on Feb 2, 2015

Really?????

10:26AM PST on Jan 29, 2015

Thanks for publishing this.

12:50PM PST on Jan 22, 2015

The first time I broke away from my standard 'type' of guy that I chased I found my awesome husband. Branch out!

9:20AM PST on Dec 30, 2014

Thanks

1:24AM PST on Dec 30, 2014

it is not that opposites attract so much as we attract what we need to complement us.

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