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Self-Talk: Talk That Makes Or Breaks You

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Self-Talk: Talk That Makes Or Breaks You

I want you to know that it’s okay if you’re not marathon-ready yet, if you didn’t finish the book yet, if you didn’t drink every ounce of water that you promised yourself you would drink yesterday. I want you to know that it’s okay if your house isn’t clean top to bottom, if you haven’t released all of your clutter, if your to-do list is mostly filled with things you meant to do yesterday. I want you to know that it’s okay if you didn’t get it painted or written, if you didn’t call or write, or if you forgot something important… again.

It’s not that I wanted you to, or that I don’t think there will be (or perhaps already are) consequences to what didn’t get done. It’s that I want you to know that it’s okay to move forward now. This moment is all we have. What if we could just live in it?

I have a client who committed to working on the backlog in her office one hour each day until it was eliminated. She has that hour scheduled on her calendar and after several days of success, she had a day like we sometimes have and she couldn’t fit it in. The next day when the reminder went off, she thought, “Yes, the office. I’ve got to get in there for two hours today!” And she never could get it done. The next day, she shot for three hours in the office and it didn’t happen either.

On the fourth day, when the alarm reminded her about the hour, she came to her senses and said, “One hour in the office, I can do that today.” And so she did and in that hour she accomplished a great deal more than she would have accomplished if she never made it into the office because she couldn’t find four hours for office time that expired over the previous several days.

We live here, in the real world, and sometimes life doesn’t go as we expected. Sometimes we get sick, or distracted, or scared or heartbroken, and the things we meant to be doing with our days don’t get done. We’ve all had interruptions like that–sometimes for days or weeks and sometimes, it’s years before we find our way back.

If you’ve been neglecting something important for weeks, months, or years, what needs to happen here isn’t the undoing of time. This isn’t about making up for what was lost. You got a new day, another chance, not a time machine.

Instead of letting what was lost yesterday build up and paralyze us, we want to look at what needs to be done today to bring us back into alignment with the truth of who we are. If you were running three days a week and you took off a couple of days, weeks (or years… that sometimes happens), you didn’t fall off a cliff, where scaling an impossible wall is the only way back. Just stand up and start walking again. When you can run, run. Take the action that is reasonable for your body today. The key is taking action.

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Christy Diane Farr

Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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7:14PM PST on Feb 3, 2012

This is a very well written article! Good advice that's easy to forget sometimes.

5:19AM PST on Feb 3, 2012

Thank you for raising this subject with such an excellent article.

1:06PM PST on Jan 28, 2012

i just love this post. It is realistic and gentle...we all need to be gentle with ourselves.

2:22PM PST on Jan 27, 2012

We need to get in touch with who we are and NOT try to fit in with the lastest fad.

9:24AM PST on Jan 26, 2012

Love , love , love this article. It's true, the first step is always the easiest but we never attempt anything. Since back when I was in elementary school I wanted to learn to play the piano, my parents didn't place me in any classes. They did however buy a flute for my older sister and a violin for my little brother. They quit playing and don't care for it where I'm still in love with piano. I had every intention of learning to play this year so I asked my dad's girlfriend if I can borrow her keyboard (my parents divorced years ago). She of course said yes but needs to get it back from her friend. She told my dad about it and turns out they plan on buying me one:) This year I'll learn for sure.

4:54PM PST on Jan 25, 2012

Thank you Christy...excellent reminder...tomorrow is a fresh new day!

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