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Self-Talk: Talk That Makes Or Breaks You

The action we take every single day defines who we are. If we want to be fit people, we need to move our bodies. If we don’t for a while, it just means we’ve established a new habit of not moving. We need to begin moving again to cultivate a new habit that will result in fitness. It’s not any more important. We are what we do. If we say we care and don’t do it, we don’t really care. At least, we care about something else more than we care about that thing. We have to invest the resources–time, money, energy, passion, etc.–into the actions that result in who we want to be.

And it’s the same process for whatever it is we want to be. If we want to be a musician, practice your instrument. If you want to be write books, pick up a pen. If you want to have rich relationships, connect with people every single day. If it’s a spiritual life you desire, do something to cultivate that in your life.

Notice that nowhere in that rather simple description is there any added benefit from self-loathing, punishment, and staying stuck even one minute longer than you need to be.

Let it go.

Begin again. Sustaining your commitment is better than not but if you have to make a dozen fresh starts to get moving, do it. What do you have to lose? The other option is much, much more of the same.

So 2012 just started, what is it you that you want for yourself this year? We’ve talked about this before. How are you moving toward that goal, resolution, dreams, or wish? Do you have time in your daily life to commit to your journey toward it? What about support? Do you have what you need to make this happen?

What about the way you are dealing with yourself? Is your self-talk part of the problem or the solution? Are you focused on what you didn’t do in the past or what you will do today? Are you setting yourself up for success when you plan your days? Have you created a supportive physical environment for yourself?

If not, take the time to get right with yourself. If you’ve let yourself down before, release that. Forgive yourself for broken promises. There’s no time for self-loathing here. It doesn’t help and it absolutely will suck the possibility out of your journey back to the one you were born to be.



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Christy Diane Farr

Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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7:14PM PST on Feb 3, 2012

This is a very well written article! Good advice that's easy to forget sometimes.

5:19AM PST on Feb 3, 2012

Thank you for raising this subject with such an excellent article.

1:06PM PST on Jan 28, 2012

i just love this post. It is realistic and gentle...we all need to be gentle with ourselves.

2:22PM PST on Jan 27, 2012

We need to get in touch with who we are and NOT try to fit in with the lastest fad.

9:24AM PST on Jan 26, 2012

Love , love , love this article. It's true, the first step is always the easiest but we never attempt anything. Since back when I was in elementary school I wanted to learn to play the piano, my parents didn't place me in any classes. They did however buy a flute for my older sister and a violin for my little brother. They quit playing and don't care for it where I'm still in love with piano. I had every intention of learning to play this year so I asked my dad's girlfriend if I can borrow her keyboard (my parents divorced years ago). She of course said yes but needs to get it back from her friend. She told my dad about it and turns out they plan on buying me one:) This year I'll learn for sure.

4:54PM PST on Jan 25, 2012

Thank you Christy...excellent reminder...tomorrow is a fresh new day!

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