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Senior Gifts: It’s the Giving That Matters Most

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Senior Gifts: It’s the Giving That Matters Most

By Cindy Laverty,

Have you ever agonized over what gift to give your mom or dad or elderly relative? If you’re like most of us, then the answer is: Yes. I remember so clearly wondering what to buy, so I put it off because I didn’t know—and Bob, (my former father-in-law who I cared for) already had everything, not to mention that he didn’t do much of anything, so what could I possibly give? I would give anything now if I had just one more birthday or holiday to shop for him. Sometimes lessons come to us when it’s too late.

Making Holidays Special for Your Elders…No Matter Where They Live

I am here to tell you—it doesn’t matter. Stop agonizing and enjoy the process of giving a gift to someone you love. It doesn’t matter if your gift never gets used. It doesn’t matter if you don’t receive accolades for the gift. What matters is the giving. What matters is a beautifully wrapped gift which speaks LOVE.

Here’s a list of great gifts that will make a difference.

Find a photo from your loved one’s past. Have it cleaned up and framed. Memories create happy moments.

Give a beautiful hankie to a grandmother.

Give a tie to grandpa. A tie says, “We’re going somewhere fancy one day soon.” Make sure you actually make arrangements for the tie to be worn. Follow through.

Give a music box with a favorite song. DVDs of movies from their past create hours of peaceful afternoons.

CDs of favorite music – or better yet, create a CD especially for your loved one with all his/her most loved music.

Make a basket of favorite treats or, better yet, have your children bake something special.

Give a digital voice recorder and encourage the senior to tell his/her Life Story.

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5:08PM PST on Jan 4, 2012


8:45AM PST on Dec 17, 2011

Thank you. I'll save these ideas.

6:18PM PST on Dec 15, 2011

How about making a donation to their favorite charity in their name. If they have enough "things" I think this is a great idea!

9:28AM PST on Dec 15, 2011

loved it

7:47AM PST on Dec 15, 2011

Visiting Nurse Service of New York posted a great article titled "Preserving Family Memories" which gives some ideas on how you can make and save your holiday memories. You can read the entire article at

4:31AM PST on Dec 15, 2011

Thanks for the article.

12:20AM PST on Dec 15, 2011

Thanks for the article.

8:52PM PST on Dec 14, 2011

Those gift suggestions are all very meaningful and certainly not costly. It shows thoughtfulness....

7:57PM PST on Dec 14, 2011

Thanks for the ideas.

6:56PM PST on Dec 14, 2011

really great tips...

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