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Seven Steps to Sex Magic!

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Seven Steps to Sex Magic!

By Dr. Elsbeth Meuth

Sex Magic! What is it? How does it work? Actually, does it really work? It’s been talked about and practiced in some places on the globe for millennia. Yet what relevance and implications does it have for us today?

I came across sex magic in the context of my tantric studies and teacher training a number of years ago. That is when I learned about the power of sexual energy as creative force and how to cultivate and channel that energy. I learned to marry my orgasmic energy with an intention to manifest what I wanted to bring into reality.

The business of creating our reality has been of course brought into the spot light via the popularization of the “Law of Attraction” through the movie The Secret as promoted by modern success leaders such as Jack Canfield, Abraham Hicks, Joe Vitale, and many others. While these leaders teach about how to direct desire and raise emotional vibration in order to achieve one’s goal, they don’t speak, however, “to the power of sexual desire used to fuel to have our wildest dreams come true. This is the secret beyond the secret: sex magic,” as my colleagues and friends, Baba Dez Nichols and Kamala Devi, wrote in their book Sexual Healing: The Shaman Method of Sex Magic.

So let’s look more deeply at what’s meant by sex magic. Baba Dez’ and Kamala’s take on it is that “…sex magic is a spiritual practice that uses sexual desire to manifest tangible effect in the physical world. One of the most powerful experiences that we have as human beings is orgasmic energy, and if we can pair it with intent, then we can direct the most powerful manifesting force available on earth.”

Let’s listen to another master in the field of sex magic, she wrote a whole book on it, called The Art of Sexual Magic. The author of course is Margo Anand, one of the pioneers of the modern Tantra movement in the West. She writes, “…basic principles of sexual magic [are]: generating sexual energy as a fuel, or power, for making magic and realizing your personal goals….by planting the seeds of your deepest desires in states of heightened orgasm you create the alchemy through which they become reality…”

In this post I’d like to offer a practical approach to Sex Magic so you at home can explore via solo or partner practice as you see fit. The steps I am suggesting here for your sex magic ritual apply to both, doing the practice by yourself or with your partner.

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10:37AM PDT on Aug 26, 2015

interesting and a fun experiment

9:31AM PDT on Aug 23, 2015

Thanks .

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9:44AM PDT on Aug 18, 2015

thank you for sharing

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8:35AM PDT on Aug 9, 2015

Careful and appropriate breathing etc is good advice but for most it simply describes TANTRIC SEX. A couple can "practice" that for YEARS with limited suckcess. The best advice fore couples to create MAGIC is PAY ATTENTION and COMMUNICATE.

Discuss fantasies. Talk about ideas that MAY turn you both on. Just talking about it excites the centers in the brain that actually deal with it in real time. Slow down and pay attention to your partners breathing, muscle tone, goose bumps, hair standing up. They ALL indicate physical excitement. As couple a couple becomes more and more intimate and the self confidence grows a guy should be able to tell what time of the month it is for his lover just by how she TASTES and will be able to tell when those extra horny times are happening. She may not even notice that all of a sudden you KNOW when she wants it slow and loving and when she needs to be thrown over the sofa's arm rest and pounded.

One factor can determine MAGIC like no other though. ORGASMS ... LOTSA BIG ones!! See how this works out for you .....

8:42AM PDT on Jul 30, 2015

confusing... where are my sex centre and my crown centre? This may require too much thinking rather than allowing the passion flow...

7:34AM PDT on Jul 30, 2015

Hmmmm, hold off on your orgasm while thinking about what you'd like to create in your life? That would take me out of the moment and probably make orgasm difficult if I was thinking about my career and such!!! Seriously???

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