Sometimes I feel like I am surrounded by people on a spiritual path. I am slow to the rolling cauldron of the New Age. I love it and yet sometimes – parts of it can make my eyes roll back in my head
For instance – for the longest time I thought that “yoga” was a series of twists and pretzel back-bends that were completely beyond me. I only partially understood that the yoga poses which I struggled with were also spiritual, but I never connected yoga with tantra (which apparently is an arm of yoga) or with any kind of mental activity such as meditation.
Yet, there I was at the famous Chopra Center in Southern California seeking enlightenment, and it felt like all of my worlds were finally connecting in a eureka kind of explosion.
It was just before another meditation and sutra lesson, when Deepak Chopra helped it all come together for me when he began to teach us about the second chakra which I always understood to be the chakra of sexuality, fertility, family and creativity. As an Integrative Life Coach who specializes in issues of women – the second chakra was so up my alley! My ears were perked – Deepak had my full attention.
Deepak surprised me, when he began by saying that “spirituality and sexual energy were connected. No life would exist without the other.” While reaching for the gap of silence in the morning meditation that followed, my mind began to think of all of the ways that we could enhance the spiritual aspect of our sexuality. Many people have written about using yoga to increase sexual energy and performance. Some, like a recent blog by the renown yoga teacher Ana Forrest, have written about using yoga to support sexual healing.
So why couldn’t we use affirmations and meditations to also bring us to a new level and ease in our relationship to our sexuality and pleasure? Why couldn’t we have enlightened sex?
Taking it even further, why couldn’t we apply The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success to support people in having more connected, healing, and pleasurable sexual experiences? What if we could turn sexual desire into pure potentiality instead of making it focused on climax or even baby making?
I have written extensively on what I call the “Organic Orgasm” or “Slow Sex” where I encourage people to let go of their absolute need for climax in every sexual experience. Instead I introduce the idea of being less goal oriented in our lovemaking and more pleasure driven.
In essence I realized, that I was bringing in what Deepak Chopra calls “The Law of Detachment” into the bedroom and into our sexuality. Who knew? I didn’t until I heard Deepak explain “The Law of Detachment“ from The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success to a room of over 300 avid learners. Now, I doubt that Dr. Chopra knew that I was going to take The Law of Detachment into the bedroom. But you never know who is listening right?
In the The Law of Detachment, we are asked to let our actions be blissfully free from attachment to outcome. Now how does that relate to sex? Let me enlighten you while I introduce to you the components of The Law of Detachment.