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7 Steps To Slay Self-Destructive Behavior
Adapted from Transforming Your Dragons, by Jose Stevens, Ph.D. (Inner Traditions, 1994).
There is a subpersonality within each person that has a self-destruct theme. This is not unnatural because it can be found all over the animal kingdom. A scorpion surrounded by flames will sting itself in the back and kill itself rather than be burned to death. Human beings will do likewise in their own way if they sense that the alternative to dying at their own hands is much more painful. Humans readily choose death for political reasons, for principles, for values, or to save the lives of others.
In most people, this perfectly natural self-destruct subpersonality sleeps unless extreme conditions call it forth to influence events. In people with control problems, the self-destructive personality has garnered this subpersonality for its own twisted purposes.
Your challenge is to set this subpersonality free to act in a normal way and to drive out the self-destruction dragon. Here are seven steps that caused you or those you love to develop self-destructive behavior, and seven steps to conquer the problem once and for all.
The Seven Steps of Development for Self-Destructive Behavior
Step One: The children are abandoned.
Step Two: The abandonment results in loss of structure.
Step Three: Emotional and physical abuse occurs.
Step Four: The children turn against themselves.
Step Five: The children fear loss of control.
Step Six: The children learn that gaining control is vital to survival.
Step Seven: The children no longer value life. Death seems better.
Seven Weapons to Slay Self-Destruction
Weapon One: Realize that life is sacred and has ultimate meaning.
Weapon Two: Admit you are out of control and ask for help.
Weapon Three: Admit that being in control is the big issue.
Weapon Four: Set your sights on realistic goals.
Weapon Five: Clean up the messes in your life.
Weapon Six: Admit and face your abuse of yourself and others.
Weapon Seven: Admit and face the issue of abandonment.
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add your comment »We need to seek for THE TRUTH. This world is a CREATED being; We all are also CREATED beings; How can one in need ask for what he needs from another who is in need himself ???Where does that leave us ??? There is no way out except for the CREATED to seek out THE CREATOR. Only THE CREATOR of all can help the helpless. Prayer for the day 1) ask HIM for a tranquil soul that believes in meeting HIM. 2) Ask HIM for satisfaction with HIS Decree. 3). Ask HIM for contentment with whatever HE gives. Please Remember trials and tribulations are given to us only cos THE CREATOR luvs us and this is the means of getting us close to HIM by making us depend and rely solely on HIM ALONE. Ask of HIM as much as u can and remember the only reason HE delays giving u what u ask for is because HE luvs Your asking and Your remembering HIM. May GOD bless and enlighten all mankind.
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-INUED...Sorry... anyway. and do something I have never mastered... Eliminate fault and regret; they will keep you traped in a loop you do not want to get stuck in! Forgiveness is GREAT, Embrace it... and move forward in your live by focusing on the present, spending your time doing the things you value, and suffering well through the things one should do for various reasons, and doing everything you (sorry "I") can do to make me and my personal environment better everyday. Love yourself! Be Well!
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This is a good outline. It generally discribes the path that led to my failer. My mom was way too busy to give guidence, or show interest in my life. Too busy to encourage me to share my day, my experience. shareing would have allowed me to deal with and structure my thoughts to enable me to grow as an individual and also increased my ability to communicate. As intelligent life the most precious gift we have is our ability to communicate. Admiting or realizeing there is a problem and what caused it, is an important first step. Taking control of my life and focusing my efforts on things I want to do, tasks that benifit my life and/or make me better. This is what I'm trying to do now! Plus; trying to let go of bitter, and get better!? Once the problem is realized communicating it to others (who care about you) is an important step to healing. So Thanks! As for a solution...Really that depends on the individual and the situation. Generally; first you must want to heal; one must look back and pick a situation; Meditate on it; realize and accept the truth of the situation; ( keep in mind all the situations of your life help define the person you'll become. but if you don't learn from a situation (what was the point right) and your likely to handel the situation the same way resulting in the same outcome) Realize what you and the other could've done differently for the situation to have been more productive; play it out in your mind, kinda like that's what I'll do next time. CONT-
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To Isabel: "To err is human"! Each day is a new beginning, and if you could use direction for a decision, write it several ways and discuss what might be right for you with someone you respect that is not "close" to you. Seems like you might need to forgive yourself as well and go on. Looking back is not always a good idea except to learn by. Focus on today, the new clean day!
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What a nonsense! So the only way one gets to self-destructive behaviour is by being abandoned?
I don't think so................
Was hoping for some help = none here
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Excuse me, but I don't find a mere recitation of steps -- without any descriptions -- as helpful. Are you simply merchandising? If so, I've got to say you don't do it half as well as madison ave.
I'm interested in change and healing. However, it seems you are interested in making your own living. To each, our own lives -- but please stop clogging my inbox as being someone "different".
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These tools are very good. I believe that they would work on any issue we need to correct. Thank you.
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nice to read those seven weapons... I'm particularly drawn to the fifth, since that's the one i've benn working on for a while... I would expect some how-to-do's on that matter, nevertheless. Would be useful for those down-the-hill moments when one thinks there will be no way to make up for the previous mistakes. I mean, it's been almost a year of messing-ups i've traced behind me now...
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nice to read those seven weapons... I'm particularly drawn to the fifth, since that's the one i've benn working on for a while... I would expect some how-to-do's on that matter, nevertheless. Would be useful for those down-the-hill moments when one thinks there will be no way to make up for the previous mistakes. I mean, it's been almost a year of messing-ups i've traced behind me now...
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