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Someone To Grow Old With

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Someone To Grow Old With

In the movie, Shall We Dance, starring Richard Gere, Jennifer Lopez and Susan Sarandon, there is a terrific scene where Sarandon’s character is sitting at a bar explaining to a stranger why being married is important.

She says, “We need a witness to our lives. There are billions of people on the planet…I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything – the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things – all of it, all the time, every day. You’re saying, ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it.  Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.’”

For the 65 percent of Baby Boomers who are married (of which I am one), this ideal of marriage probably resonates. We do want someone to share ourselves with and to eventually grow old with. Even for those Boomers who have divorced, most seek to remarry… to find a new lover, best friends, and partner for life. But things are changing.

There is a disturbing trend happening today around marriage and commitment. One study shows that 39 percent of American’s say that marriage is becoming obsolete. Marriage has lost its appeal for the younger generations, especially the Millennials (the 18-29-year-olds). They are pro-parenthood but anti-marriage.

According to Pew Research Center, right now 61 percent of births to women 20-24 are out of wedlock while one in three births for women 25-29 are to unwed mothers. Why?

According to Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse , president of the Ruth Institute for Marriage and Family, “Women don’t think men are necessary. Therefore, they are unwilling to go to the effort required to be in a relationship with a man.”

Clearly these are women who have not experienced the beauty and magic of a relationship that works. A relationship where two people choose to share a life together and to make a commitment to work through all the ups and downs, good days and bad days.

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Arielle Ford

Arielle Ford is a highly influential personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. For the past 25 years she has been promoting consciousness through all forms of media. Her stellar career includes years as a prominent book publicist, author, literary agent, TV lifestyle reporter, radio host, publishing consultant, relationship expert, and blogger for the Huffington Post. Arielle is the author of nine books including the international bestseller, The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her latest book is Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships. She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends. www.thewabisabibook.com

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4:36PM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

Beautiful wisdom for love and life.

7:20PM PDT on Mar 15, 2012

Thanks

10:17PM PST on Mar 10, 2012

there's someone for everyone...mature love is great

9:06PM PST on Mar 9, 2012

Very interesting article.Thanks for sharing.

7:53PM PST on Mar 9, 2012

Thanks for sharing.

6:26PM PST on Mar 9, 2012

Its funny we look for perfection in our partner even when we can't find it in ourselves.The truth is we wont find perfection outside of Paradise because on this planet none of us is perfect. A great article thank you.

1:58PM PST on Mar 9, 2012

interesting, thank you.

8:36PM PST on Mar 8, 2012

LOL, I really like the part that says that perfection should be changed to pure fiction......just can`t agree more. There`s this saying, "Marriage is love in full bloom." Well, this full bloom should hopefully lasts forever.....but of course it should come with lots of love, honesty, patience, consideration and understanding. It`s tough but it`s really worth the while trying to uphold these virtues for every married person in order to sustain a marriage.

8:35PM PST on Mar 8, 2012

LOL, I really like the part that says that perfection should be changed to pure fiction......just can`t agree more. There`s this saying, "Marriage is love in full bloom." Well, this full bloom should hopefully lasts forever.....but of course it should come with lots of love, honesty, patience, consideration and understanding. It`s tough but it`s really worth the while trying to uphold these virtues for every married person in order to sustain a marriage.

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