How do you cultivate the feminine superpower of receiving? I recently sat down to talk with the very smart and talented Kristine Carlson and Christine Arylo to hear their thoughts on flexing our trust muscles, strengthening the nervous system and more. Read an excerpt of our conversation below
Kristine Carlson: One of the things I’ve always taught in my work is, “How you start your day is how you live your day.” If you jump out of bed in the morning at the alarm clock and you’re already starting your day out frazzled, then chances are that’s how the rest of your day is going to unfold. So what I’ve always taught moms and women to do is get off to a peaceful start. Really create your own space in your home, in your life. It only takes 10-20 minutes.
It starts right when you wake up in the morning. Instead of getting up quickly, put your feet over the edge of your bed. Put your feet on the side of your bed. Get up slowly. Put a warm, cozy robe on. Go get some tea or lemon water or coffee, whatever you need, and then meditate for 10 minutes, do some inspiration reading. Whatever that ritual is for you, that’s one of the ways that you can practice immediately receiving and nourishing your spirit.
We give so much to everyone around us, we take of so many people, we take care of everyone, but oftentimes, at the end of the day, we kind of ask the question, “Gee, where do I fit into my own life? I don’t even know where I exist anymore, where I’m coming and going.” And when you’re feeling like that, it’s really because you’re not taking any time for yourself. Taking that time first thing in the morning is imperative to beginning a receiving practice.
Christine Arylo: I have several receiving practices I do every morning, right from my bed, and they take me less than five minutes. One that I do every morning is a very simple super-duper practice to make sure that you’re not taking too much from your energy reserves.
Just imagine that you have an energy dipstick in your body. Dip the dipstick in and get a reading on a scale of 0 to 100. Go ahead and close your eyes right now and just ask yourself what your number is. If you were to give yourself a reading of 0 to 100, with 100 being totally full, and 50 being at half-tank, and 0 being empty, where is your number?
If you are below 50, you really don’t have any energy to give. That’s why you feel depleted, that’s why your nervous system starts to freak out, and that’s why you start to go into fight-or-flight, because you think, “Oh, I don’t want to give! I don’t have any more to give!” But you don’t know how to stop, right?
And so what I do in that situation is to just notice that. Don’t judge it, but just notice it. And check in every day and ask yourself the question, “Well, what do I need to receive?” Just close your eyes again, and take a breath, and just ask yourself, ask your body, ask your soul, what do you need to receive today?
If you don’t get anything right away, which happens to people, it just means that you haven’t been tuning in to what you need to receive. And that’s a normal place to start with a practice. Of course your inner wisdom is like, “What, she just asked me that question? She hasn’t asked me that question in years!” And so your wisdom is taken aback, just like, “What? Me? I get to receive?”
I’ve been doing this practice for over five years. I realized that if I didn’t learn how to receive, I wasn’t going to make it. I wasn’t going to be able to have the impact in the world that I wanted without depleting myself, my resources, my time, my money, and eventually, at the age of 40, my body. But the yogis, the physicians, the brain scientists, they all agree that if you do one thing for 40 days and focus on it, you can find a pattern and you can shift it. You can bring awareness to it and you can break it. This is a great practice for that.
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