In part 3 of the series we discussed walking away from people who had the negative traits that were all too familiar to you. In other words: different face, same issues. As heady as this process might sound, the goal here is to break the dysfunctional dating cycle and find the right partner for you. I am not going to sugar coat anything, it’s just not my style. Sometimes we need to put our emotions aside and use our heads.
This is part 4 of Breaking the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle and Finding Love and if you are just joining this series, you might want to check out the first 3 articles as it will give you some history as to where we are in this process. Click here to view the previous articles. I believe that in order to break the dysfunctional dating cycle, and for those of you doing this you will know exactly what I mean, there are certain things that we need to get clear on.
A friend of mine sent the following quote to me today.
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” - Author Unknown.
This quote is stunningly perfect. I wish I had this in my 20′s, although I might not have completely understood this as I do now. It truly sums up how many of us have felt in relationships when we have put the other person first over and over again and coming in maybe tenth with them in their lives. I don’t think I need to elaborate too much on this statement, other than please remember to read this as many times as necessary when you find yourself here. Have it become your mantra and do not make excuses for why the person you are dating is not making you a priority.