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Do You Make Excuses for the Person You’re Dating?

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Do You Make Excuses for the Person You’re Dating?

In part 3 of the series we discussed walking away from people who had the negative traits that were all too familiar to you.  In other words: different face, same issues. As heady as this process might sound, the goal here is to break the dysfunctional dating cycle and find the right partner for you. I am not going to sugar coat anything, it’s just not my style.  Sometimes we need to put our emotions aside and use our heads.

This is part 4 of Breaking the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle and Finding Love and if you are just joining this series, you might want to check out the first 3 articles as it will give you some history as to where we are in this process. Click here to view the previous articles.  I believe that in order to break the dysfunctional dating cycle, and for those of you doing this you will know exactly what I mean, there are certain things that we need to get clear on.

A friend of mine sent the following quote to me today.

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” - Author Unknown.

This quote is stunningly perfect.  I wish I had this in my 20′s, although I might not have completely understood this as I do now.  It truly sums up how many of us have felt in relationships when we have put the other person first over and over again and coming in maybe tenth with them in their lives.  I don’t think I need to elaborate too much on this statement, other than please remember to read this as many times as necessary  when you find yourself here.  Have it become your mantra and do not make excuses for why the person you are dating is not making you a priority.

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Liz Dawn Donahue

Liz Dawn Donahue was recently married after years of dating. She is the CEO of Mishka Productions whose signature event Celebrate Your Life, brings together people from all over the world to assist in raising the consciousness of the planet. CelebrateYourLife.ORG


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10:09AM PST on Nov 25, 2011

I always think I'm under-confident, but reading this makes me realise I value myself reasonably highly. It's a horrible feeling to wake up one day and realise you've been wasting your time. I've been in a happy relationship for about 15 years now, but I always felt very strongly I'd rather be happy alone than miserable within a relationship.

4:25PM PST on Dec 27, 2010

We are all a mix of mindsets, attitudes and beliefs. Ask yourself this: Why do I think/feel I am not in a relationship with all that I perceive already? I believe that when you are able to be happy right now, grateful right now regardless of situation, then you are in relationship with the most loving energy anywhere. A one on one relationship may or may not be what you need. Check into your soul and ask it what would I be if I were truly happy? I say ignore societal/cultural pressure, go with your soul.

3:27AM PST on Dec 27, 2010

Love is all around me. I don't have to HAVE a partner to be or feel love. Wow! If you can't love yourself how can you love anyone else? Maybe some people are just content with love and don't want to be in a relationship with all the strings and problems attached.

4:56PM PST on Dec 26, 2010


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4:04PM PDT on Sep 8, 2010

Thank you. I realize I am further ahead in this process than I thought.

4:37AM PDT on Sep 4, 2010

Love is a divine energy that steps into human circumtances, a timeless essence that enters time. It is older, wiser, finer, truer, sweeter, and more radiant than any human being. It is what makes us wise, fine, true, sweet, and radiant. It is the best - the essence of God - in us. And it is love, this exquisite energy, with which we connect when we first enter into the human experience we call 'a relationship'. We see this energy in one another's eyes, we feel it in our bodies, and we know that something bigger than life has stepped into our life to capture our attention.

11:23AM PDT on Aug 24, 2010

I like "The relationship you are seeking, is seeking you."

8:41AM PDT on Aug 16, 2010

No more excises, or fitting a round peg in a square more reasons for not being a priority

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