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Stop Waiting: Nothing Will Ever Be The Same Again

Stop Waiting: Nothing Will Ever Be The Same Again

In this year, month, day, hour, second – in this exact moment of being – your life is yours to live. Stop waiting. You don’t have to have it all figured out. I rarely do. And some of the best sex, best meals, best adventures, best creative efforts, “best of everything of Pamela Madsen” has been done on a wing and a prayer. You don’t have to be perfect. Ever. Forget labels. They don’t matter. I used to let labels define me. Like up until yesterday. Change can happen that quickly.

Sometimes, you have to stop midstream, and go in another direction. That’s okay too. You don’t have to clean you plate ever! Unless you want to.

Don’t play scared. Don’t play trapped. Don’t play what if. Don’t play small ever.  Be painfully vulnerable. It’s okay to cry and it’s okay to want. Show up with a full heart and roll the dice. At the very least you know that you are playing your life full out. Big is the new black.

So what’s holding you back? A little fear? Got it. Me to. Lots of it. And that being said, what’s really holding you back? Slide in and begin to move your hips. Let your desires run through your body like a lover’s hands. Slow and easy. Hard and fast. Take it in and keep your eyes wide open. Forget trance states! I don’t want you to miss a thing. Let go of the places where you have begged for crumbs. Reach for the whole slice of cake. This is not the time for living a life on a diet.

Reach for what you know is real. Let go of needing praise. Are you living your life for you or for somebody else? How hard are you working on fitting into the cage?

Guess what? You are worth more than that. How much of your life are you going to spend waiting to get permission to live? Stop it.

Now move it. Make it happen. I don’t know what it is for you. That book, that dance, that dream, that life. Stop dreaming. Create. Swing the bat and play hard. Remember you have this moment. Do it any way you want to. For me, I may be playing in black silk stockings and knee high leather boots one minute, and in another a red silk business suit. I seduce the hell out of myself. I give myself pole dances as I write my books, and coach women into their own lap dance of self pleasure.

Do you hear the music yet? It’s playing just for you.

Live a life of hope and possibility. Don’t be afraid to pull the “Fool” card in the Tarot deck.

Let resistance go, you know what you really want.

Me too.


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Pamela Madsen

Pamela Madsen is an Integrative Life Coach Specializing In Women's Issues: Sexuality, Fertility, Body Image, Wellness and Rejuvenation. Pamela is also author of the best selling memoir Shameless (Rodale, Jan 2011), and founder of The American Fertility Association.Her websites and her daily blog,, are a breakfast essential for reporters, writers and policymakers.


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9:41PM PDT on May 24, 2013

Thank you!

6:40AM PST on Feb 15, 2013


6:29AM PST on Feb 6, 2013

Thanks for a well meaning push....

11:46PM PST on Jan 26, 2013

We live here and now, thanks for good reminder!

8:48PM PST on Jan 24, 2013

Wow! Just the inspiration I needed to start my morning!

1:30AM PST on Jan 24, 2013

You are ME and I am YOU :-)

1:29AM PST on Jan 24, 2013


5:06PM PST on Jan 23, 2013

Beautifully written, and I've read many on the theme over the years. I think that Leo Buscaglia would've loved it were he still with us. Would it surprise any when I say that a follower of Jesus would appreciate this? I am one and I do. Thanks; I'll read it again, I'm sure.

2:44PM PST on Jan 23, 2013

The future is always a moving target; just do the best you can.

10:38AM PST on Jan 22, 2013

This is not the time for living a life on a diet.

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Love these words. Very inspiring article indeed. No need to keep spinning your wheels. There is more to life, indeed, just waiting to be discovered, sometimes it glares you in the face and don/t even see it. Thanks.

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