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Stop Stress, and Give from the Heart

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Stop Stress, and Give from the Heart

Even with the best of intentions, at holiday time we can fall into a mechanical default mode of making our lists, decorating and baking as a chore, rushing around and shopping joylessly. When the experience of the season feels like a task-oriented mental function, or even a stress frenzy, we lose out on all the potential joy of it. Half the gift of giving is in feeling the love that inspired it.

No matter which tradition you may follow, more than likely its meaning is related to renewal of spirit, connection and love – qualities of the heart. The holidays are a time for us to connect with our hearts as we celebrate hope and joy. When we’re stressed and cut off from the heart, stuck in our heads with things to do, it actually creates a strain on the physical heart. If we miss the spirit of the holidays, that takes a toll on the body too.

It’s worth revisiting what it actually means to “give from the heart.” It’s about opening our heart and feeling the qualities that create a sense of fulfillment. As the giver, the gift we offer comes back to us two-fold: the genuine act of giving feels good and we also receive feel-good feelings from the energies of those who receive our gift. It’s fun and joyful! Acts of the heart can be many different things – a surprise gift that’s just what they want, a kind word, an unrushed visit, a thank-you to a frazzled store clerk, a thoughtfully written card, a beaming smile.

The other day Deborah was leading a seminar and her students asked her what to do when they feel so rushed and over-stretched during the holidays. She told them they already have the HeartMath tools they need, so use them to make giving from the heart more important than thinking they’re tied to all their tasks. When you make using these tools your first priority, you create time because you’re in a flow.

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By Sara Childre and Deborah Rozman

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Sara, from Institute of HeartMath

Sara Childre is President and CEO of the non-profit Institute of HeartMath. Since 1991, Sara has helped oversee and develop HeartMath trainings, educational products and scientific programs. She was appointed vice president and CFO of the institute in 1992, then president and CEO in 1998.


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8:27PM PST on Dec 22, 2012

other things when you control yourself you can means control yours from your heart so you stoped stress well

8:25PM PST on Dec 22, 2012

i thank that someone when they have in good mood so they have no more stress

3:03AM PST on Dec 21, 2012

Had never heard of HeartMath so was interested to read about their techniques. Really enjoyed the article also - thanks!

10:56PM PST on Dec 19, 2012

thank you for brining us back to basics.

10:19PM PST on Dec 19, 2012

Thanks for the share!

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9:39AM PST on Dec 18, 2012

As the prayer says "Grant me the wisdom to know the difference" between what I can change and what I can't. Along with mental stress, other types of stress add to our TOTAL stress load. We often have more control over our chemical stress, physical stress and thermal stress through diet, exercise, chiropractic, massage and education. See:

8:46AM PST on Dec 18, 2012

Sweet article, thanks

5:15AM PST on Dec 18, 2012


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