Even with the best of intentions, at holiday time we can fall into a mechanical default mode of making our lists, decorating and baking as a chore, rushing around and shopping joylessly. When the experience of the season feels like a task-oriented mental function, or even a stress frenzy, we lose out on all the potential joy of it. Half the gift of giving is in feeling the love that inspired it.
No matter which tradition you may follow, more than likely its meaning is related to renewal of spirit, connection and love – qualities of the heart. The holidays are a time for us to connect with our hearts as we celebrate hope and joy. When we’re stressed and cut off from the heart, stuck in our heads with things to do, it actually creates a strain on the physical heart. If we miss the spirit of the holidays, that takes a toll on the body too.
It’s worth revisiting what it actually means to “give from the heart.” It’s about opening our heart and feeling the qualities that create a sense of fulfillment. As the giver, the gift we offer comes back to us two-fold: the genuine act of giving feels good and we also receive feel-good feelings from the energies of those who receive our gift. It’s fun and joyful! Acts of the heart can be many different things – a surprise gift that’s just what they want, a kind word, an unrushed visit, a thank-you to a frazzled store clerk, a thoughtfully written card, a beaming smile.
The other day Deborah was leading a seminar and her students asked her what to do when they feel so rushed and over-stretched during the holidays. She told them they already have the HeartMath tools they need, so use them to make giving from the heart more important than thinking they’re tied to all their tasks. When you make using these tools your first priority, you create time because you’re in a flow.
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