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Decreasing Drama in Your Life

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When we constantly spin thoughts of blame, anger and “doom and gloom” projections about the future, it blinds our intuitive discernment, which we need to find the most effective ways to navigate through challenges.

Our relationships also take a hit from our drama. In a conversation, we may be missing the boat on the other person’s intent. Or we get convinced that what we think about a situation is the whole picture, disregarding another’s perspective. And we can’t access the appropriate response to a loved one when we’re in drama mode.

The human system is designed to get the most clarity when our heart rhythm is sending coherent and synchronizing signals to our brain. This allows us to have access to the wisdom of our experience. When we’re in a drama state, that possibility gets shut off. Our heart rhythm sends incoherent and desynchronizing signals instead. What we need to do as early as possible in the situation is realize that we’ve been down this road before. I say to myself “if I let myself continue to be angry, I’ll end up with a headache or say something I regret. I would rather have my deepest intelligence guiding me.” When we’re calm, centered and coherent, maintaining a neutral or positive attitude, we can access this deeper intelligence.

Even when the drama going on around you is real, you’ll be more effective if you can stay neutral. HeartMath trains a lot of EMTs and military for situational readiness so they can have more intelligence available to them in a crisis situation.

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Deborah, from HeartMath

Deborah Rozman, Ph.D., is President and CEO of the for-profit Quantum Intech Inc (dba HeartMath Inc.) Deborah has been deeply committed to awareness development and personal growth for 40 years. Deborah is co-author with Doc Childre of Transforming Anger, Transforming Stress, Transforming Anxiety, Transforming Depression and Stopping Emotional Eating.


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5:24AM PST on Dec 22, 2012

Some of your initial comments ring so true! It's not that easy to steer clear of drama if family members tend to be dramatic - I think we all need some space to ourselves in order to analyse stressful situations and come up with the best solutions and coping strategies.

4:17AM PST on Dec 15, 2012

thanks for sharing

7:11AM PST on Dec 10, 2012

I have decreased drama 90% from my life when I did not spend the holidays with my toxic relatives. The only person I spent the holidays with is my son and he is one of the most positive people I know. I like to think I have contributed to him being a positive, caring, and loving soul.

5:44PM PST on Dec 9, 2012

Thanks for the article. I try to streer clear of drama by avoiding people who always seem to be in a state of crisis or feel the need to constantly bad-mouth others.

7:21PM PST on Dec 3, 2012

worth pondering

2:25PM PST on Dec 1, 2012


2:15PM PST on Dec 1, 2012

Thank you.

12:41AM PST on Dec 1, 2012

To worry is to meditate and pray for what you DON'T want.

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