When we constantly spin thoughts of blame, anger and “doom and gloom” projections about the future, it blinds our intuitive discernment, which we need to find the most effective ways to navigate through challenges.
Our relationships also take a hit from our drama. In a conversation, we may be missing the boat on the other person’s intent. Or we get convinced that what we think about a situation is the whole picture, disregarding another’s perspective. And we can’t access the appropriate response to a loved one when we’re in drama mode.
The human system is designed to get the most clarity when our heart rhythm is sending coherent and synchronizing signals to our brain. This allows us to have access to the wisdom of our experience. When we’re in a drama state, that possibility gets shut off. Our heart rhythm sends incoherent and desynchronizing signals instead. What we need to do as early as possible in the situation is realize that we’ve been down this road before. I say to myself “if I let myself continue to be angry, I’ll end up with a headache or say something I regret. I would rather have my deepest intelligence guiding me.” When we’re calm, centered and coherent, maintaining a neutral or positive attitude, we can access this deeper intelligence.
Even when the drama going on around you is real, you’ll be more effective if you can stay neutral. HeartMath trains a lot of EMTs and military for situational readiness so they can have more intelligence available to them in a crisis situation.