To stop the momentum of internal negativity, practice the Quick Coherence technique.
Then really cement the shift by adding the Attitude Breathing technique. What is your favorite restful feeling? Choose this as your replacement attitude. Focus on your heart as you breathe in the new attitude. As you exhale, focus on your solar plexus. Breathe the new attitude in until you really feel the attitude. Once you’ve reached it, you can also exhale an attitude. For example, breathe in balance and breathe out forgiveness, or breathe in ease and breathe out compassion. By practicing this, you can start to change your mechanical habits and soon you will be able to do it on demand and save yourself a lot of energy.
When you catch your inner dialogue looping with excessive worry or fearful projections, or when in conversations with others that constantly dramatize the downside of things, gently tell yourself: “That’s not helping to change something that’s already done; it can only make it worse.” Then, make a genuine attempt to realign your thoughts, feelings and conversations with ideas that support your needs and action plans. Accept that you may not be able to stop all the internal drama loops and anxiety at this point. But, you can effectively reduce your energy drain and offset your stress deficit with this exercise.
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The other day, I was driving in a lot of traffic. There was a slow driver in front of me and a road rager honking behind me. I was so grateful I had some great tools that could help me manage a situation like that calmly. Sure, you get better with practice, but you will benefit from the very first use of these tools. And each time you use them, it will build your confidence as you decrease drama and experience new, healthier responses to stress.