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Decreasing Drama in Your Life

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To stop the momentum of internal negativity, practice the Quick Coherence technique.

Then really cement the shift by adding the Attitude Breathing technique. What is your favorite restful feeling? Choose this as your replacement attitude. Focus on your heart as you breathe in the new attitude. As you exhale, focus on your solar plexus. Breathe the new attitude in until you really feel the attitude. Once you’ve reached it, you can also exhale an attitude. For example, breathe in balance and breathe out forgiveness, or breathe in ease and breathe out compassion. By practicing this, you can start to change your mechanical habits and soon you will be able to do it on demand and save yourself a lot of energy.

When you catch your inner dialogue looping with excessive worry or fearful projections, or when in conversations with others that constantly dramatize the downside of things, gently tell yourself: “That’s not helping to change something that’s already done; it can only make it worse.” Then, make a genuine attempt to realign your thoughts, feelings and conversations with ideas that support your needs and action plans. Accept that you may not be able to stop all the internal drama loops and anxiety at this point. But, you can effectively reduce your energy drain and offset your stress deficit with this exercise.

Download HeartMath’s free De-Stress Kit for more ideas.

The other day, I was driving in a lot of traffic. There was a slow driver in front of me and a road rager honking behind me. I was so grateful I had some great tools that could help me manage a situation like that calmly. Sure, you get better with practice, but you will benefit from the very first use of these tools. And each time you use them, it will build your confidence as you decrease drama and experience new, healthier responses to stress.

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Deborah, from HeartMath

Deborah Rozman, Ph.D., is President and CEO of the for-profit Quantum Intech Inc (dba HeartMath Inc.) Deborah has been deeply committed to awareness development and personal growth for 40 years. Deborah is co-author with Doc Childre of Transforming Anger, Transforming Stress, Transforming Anxiety, Transforming Depression and Stopping Emotional Eating.


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1:38PM PST on Jan 5, 2013

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5:24AM PST on Dec 22, 2012

Some of your initial comments ring so true! It's not that easy to steer clear of drama if family members tend to be dramatic - I think we all need some space to ourselves in order to analyse stressful situations and come up with the best solutions and coping strategies.

4:17AM PST on Dec 15, 2012

thanks for sharing

7:11AM PST on Dec 10, 2012

I have decreased drama 90% from my life when I did not spend the holidays with my toxic relatives. The only person I spent the holidays with is my son and he is one of the most positive people I know. I like to think I have contributed to him being a positive, caring, and loving soul.

5:44PM PST on Dec 9, 2012

Thanks for the article. I try to streer clear of drama by avoiding people who always seem to be in a state of crisis or feel the need to constantly bad-mouth others.

7:21PM PST on Dec 3, 2012

worth pondering

2:25PM PST on Dec 1, 2012


2:15PM PST on Dec 1, 2012

Thank you.

12:41AM PST on Dec 1, 2012

To worry is to meditate and pray for what you DON'T want.

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