When a crisis happens, our stress tolerance level depletes from the shock and emotional pain. We become overwhelmed, which inhibits our capacity to cope. Yet, itís completely understandable why we would feel the way we do. And during a rough time, sometimes people doubt themselves and avoid sharing what theyíre going through with somebody else for fear of being judged. But the need for connection doesnít go away if we ignore it Ė emotional stress still accumulates. And you canít run away from it, because itís running you. At some point, we have to reach out and connect with the hearts of others.
Some years ago, I was in a meeting with three coworkers. They were talking about a problem they were having with another coworker and feeling I hadnít handled the situation as well as I could have. I felt misunderstood, then began questioning whether they were right, and found myself going around in my head. Even while I was going about other work, my thoughts and feelings were churning and draining my energy. I had to do something or I would stay stuck there. It was scary. I didnít want to be wrong. I knew I needed to open up with someone, so I shared with someone at work who I felt would hear my heart and† wouldnít judge me. She used HeartMathís intuitive listening tool, reflecting back what I said and acknowledging my feelings. I felt so cared for, so seen. Something let go inside me. Yes! Then I was able to share with the other three coworkers why I handled the problematic situation the way I did. They told me that they understood where I was coming from and said it would have really been helpful if I could have shared that in the meeting at the time. I realized it had been a safe place after all, and was able release it all and move on.