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I like to share the following story with many of my clients, especially those with cancer: A woman’s husband had been killed at war, so she was forced to take care of herself and their five children on her own. She tried to stay strong and worked very hard just to survive. One day she came back to her children after a long day looking for work with one fragile egg in her hand.
The children cried with joy when they saw the beautiful egg. They watched their mother crack it open ever so carefully, cook it up, and eat the whole thing herself. They started to cry and asked her, “How could you do that? We’re starving.”
She simply replied, “If you don’t have enough strength to survive, you will all perish.”
Each cancer has its own lessons. In terms of breast cancer, the breast is the mothering aspect of our physical bodies and is by nature giving and nurturing. It is no wonder that so many women with breast cancer are depleted from giving, caring, sharing, making, and fixing everything and everyone around them.
Through this health-awakening process, I hope you’ve discovered that you are all there is. You are the most important person in your life; it would cost a fortune to replace you. In my particular situation, my house would need a full-time cook, babysitter, housekeeper, driver, friend, adviser/psychologist, and doctor/healer. We are all being pulled in a million different directions, be it at work or at home, and this can be very draining.
Reclaiming the ability to live for you might be difficult at first, even if you’re single and don’t have children. There are still people depending on you every day, right? Well, tell them to get lost. For the first time in 15 years, I had to put my husband and children after me. Then if I had enough time and energy to spare after being with my immediate family, I could share myself with friends or clients. I’ve come to take this part of my healing very seriously, and I hope you will, too.
Make sure to take time for you: sleep when you’re tired, eat when you’re hungry, play when you feel light-hearted, and cry when you need to mourn. Find the freedom to develop a new way of life that revolves around you as much as you can.
Excerpted from A Survivor’s Guide to Kicking Cancer’s Ass by Dena Mendes. Published by Hay House.
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