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Teaching Children to Give – Helpful Tips

To help you step into the holiday spirit and remember its real meaning, Iíd like to share a short video called “A Recipe of Care” with you; and then Iíd like to share some tips on how we can teach our children to give with care and how giving can help their physical and emotional well-being.

As we teach our young ones to cook up this type of recipe and serve it to all those they meet, we create a more heart-fulfilled holiday season. I hope this simple and uplifting message will touch your heart and add inspiration throughout your holiday season. Click on the video to watch — itís just 43 seconds long.

Teaching Children to Give

In addition to asking children what they want for Christmas, Hanukah, Kwanzaa or other holiday, try asking, “What do you want to give?” Holiday gift giving can be a good opportunity and first step in teaching children to give of themselves. Here are some helpful tips:

  • Help children explore ideas on what they can give to grandparents, sisters, brothers, or the other parent Ė something they can make or can afford to purchase. Talk about how simple things can make great gifts, a special jar of jam or a picture they drew, for instance. Emphasize that itís the care that goes into gift giving, rather than the cost of the gift thatís important. The care in considering what another person might like or dislike, choosing a simple gift (or making one), and presenting it from the heart, makes all the difference.
  • After decisions are made, check in with your children on how theyíre doing Ė either in creating a homemade gift or in shopping. Just like adults, children can become overly concerned about whether their gift will be the right one and then become frustrated. On the other hand, they may not be able to find or create the gift theyíd imagined. If a gift idea needs re-thinking, thatís okay, but in your conversation with the child, put the emphasis on “the spirit of giving” rather than coming up with the perfect gift. Help your children, but it is best not to make or buy the gifts they will give. That robs them of the experience of caring and giving. Your own attitude about giving and your example will do more than anything else to help your children become the type of people you hope they will become.
  • Itís up to you to create an emphasis in your family on giving to those less fortunate. You might invite someone whoís alone to a holiday meal, create a food basket for a hungry family, or give gifts to needy children, anonymously through a local gift drive. Whatever you choose, make it a family project and an opportunity for your children to give up something for others, whether itís time or a bit of money. Encourage older children to spend an hour with a grandparent or friend of the family whoís alone. Your enthusiasm and care will be infectious and help your children discover the true joy of giving.
  • Donít stop after the holidays are over. People continue to be hungry or in need of companionship as time goes by. Show children that a generous heart is important all year round. This will help your children develop a thoughtful perspective about their place in the world and cultivate solid values.

How acts of kindness and generosity enhance our health, increase our longevity and make us happier.

Can heart-directed altruism reduce stress? Iíve certainly found this to be true in my life.† Research shows when we act on other peopleís behalf, we feel better, are more secure, experience less stress and live longer. J. Andrew Armour, a leading neurocardiologist on Institute of HeartMathís Scientific Advisory Board found that the heart contains cells that synthesize and release hormones such as epinephrine (also called adrenaline) and dopamine. The heart also secretes oxytocin, commonly referred to as the “love” or “bonding” hormone. Concentrations of oxytocin produced in the heart are as high as those found in the brain.

States of joy and delight can result from giving to others. When we are altruistic Ė helping someone Ėour oxytocin levels go up, which helps to relieve stress and create the feeling of elation. Altruistic behavior also triggers the brainís reward circuitry Ė the feel-good chemicals such as dopamine and endorphins. The hormonal benefits of good deeds, however, depend on the genuine caring intent of acts of altruism. HeartMath research has found that caring, like other positive emotions, increases smoothness in the heartís rhythmic pattern and improves the health of our heart, immune and hormonal systems. Many people are cultivating altruism within themselves and in their children using HeartMath tools. The heart-focused techniques of the HeartMath System help people of all ages align themselves more fully with core values and actualize more care and compassion in their lives.

Practicing these tools has been linked to beneficial changes in hormones that profoundly affect health, happiness and longevity and increase our resilience for dealing with todayís Happy Childrenchallenges. By integrating these practices in your life, you can reduce your stress and increase your generosity from the heart. Free services section of IHMís web site offers Tools for Well-Being for children of all ages. These tools are available in both text and audio form.

Encourage your family to hold a heartfelt attitude of peace and good will towards each other throughout the season.

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Sara, from the HeartMath Institute

Sara Childre is President and CEO of the non-profit Institute of HeartMath. Since 1991, Sara has helped oversee and develop HeartMath trainings, educational products and scientific programs. She was appointed vice president and CFO of the institute in 1992, then president and CEO in 1998.


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2:57PM PDT on Jul 30, 2015

Very important to raise compassionate and giving children, thanks for posting.

11:30AM PDT on Apr 3, 2015

Lovely, thoughtful article and so useful for all of us not just children.

One year I told everyone in my life that I was taking the money I would have spent on their Christmas gifts and cards, and giving it to homeless animals. I shopped for treats, chews and toys and filled my wicker laundry baskets with them. Then I mapped out where all the pounds were from north to south of my city, stuck on a Father Christmas hat and spent the whole day making deliveries. At the end I was exhausted but I felt wonderful. It was one of the best Christmases of my life.

2:36PM PST on Mar 3, 2015

Wish more Children was taught this. Not no worry about what they can get from others!

10:28AM PST on Feb 4, 2015

Thank you

1:53PM PST on Jan 30, 2015

Thanks for sharing.

2:20PM PST on Jan 4, 2015

Thanks so much for sharing:)

9:10AM PST on Jan 4, 2015


8:20AM PST on Jan 4, 2015

Thanks for posting!

3:26AM PST on Jan 4, 2015

A life of sharing is a fruitful one

2:28AM PST on Jan 4, 2015

Better to give than receive

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