Unconditional love happens best within a context of plentitude rather than neediness.
Such inner fullness overflows spontaneously into the five essentials of genuine love, which offer a blueprint for openness. When we are present in these five essential ways, we find ourselves opening. And when we give these five essential of genuine love to ourselves, we grow in self-esteem.
Discover here the all-important five attributes of genuine love:
The Five Essentials of Genuine Love
Attention (of ourselves and/or others)
Acceptance (of ourselves and/or others)
Appreciation (of ourselves and/or others)
Affection (of ourselves and/or others)
Allowing (of ourselves and/or others)
In order to full receive others’ feelings and help them to move through their emotions, we need to stay present with the five essential ways of genuine love and without the mind-sets of ego: fear, attachment, control, judgment, complaint, blame, contempt, or censure.
Intimacy means the exchange of our feelings with the support shown in the five essentials of genuine love without interfering mind-sets. An adult relationship that has made even one of the four feelings verboten does not allow the full monty of intimacy.
Adapted from The Five Things We Cannot Change, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2005). (c) David Richo, 2005. Reprinted with permission of Shambhala.
Adapted from The Five Things We Cannot Change, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2005).