The Five Essentials of Genuine Love

Unconditional love happens best within a context of plentitude rather than neediness.

Such inner fullness overflows spontaneously into the five essentials of genuine love, which offer a blueprint for openness. When we are present in these five essential ways, we find ourselves opening. And when we give these five essential of genuine love to ourselves, we grow in self-esteem.

Discover here the all-important five attributes of genuine love:

The Five Essentials of Genuine Love

Attention (of ourselves and/or others)

Acceptance (of ourselves and/or others)

Appreciation (of ourselves and/or others)

Affection (of ourselves and/or others)

Allowing (of ourselves and/or others)

In order to full receive othersí feelings and help them to move through their emotions, we need to stay present with the five essential ways of genuine love and without the mind-sets of ego: fear, attachment, control, judgment, complaint, blame, contempt, or censure.

Intimacy means the exchange of our feelings with the support shown in the five essentials of genuine love without interfering mind-sets. An adult relationship that has made even one of the four feelings verboten does not allow the full monty of intimacy.

Adapted from The Five Things We Cannot Change, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2005). (c) David Richo, 2005. Reprinted with permission of Shambhala.
Adapted from The Five Things We Cannot Change, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2005).

32 comments

Violeta C.
Violeta C.3 years ago

There are 5A's.............all 5 wrong. YOU NEVER PUT YOURSELF BEFORE OTHERS...................SO THEY ARE WRONG AND NOT GENUINE. I had to look up what genuine means and believe me...........is nothing genuine about putting yourself before others. NOTHING...................so please stop and look in the mirror........you never put yourself before others.

Yakkie.......for 2 years I try to figure out what this site meant by genuine love.......and when I got it............is red socks....................GOD I LOVE YOU EBEN ALEXANDER III.
You are everywhere in the world and the world does not see it. LOOOOOOVEEEE YOU ANYWAY

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Val M.
Val M4 years ago

Thanks

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Winn Adams
Winn A4 years ago

Thanks

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Fiona T.
Past Member 4 years ago

Complete communication within the body and soul is a key

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Summerannie Moon
Summerannie M4 years ago

I like those 3 A's

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Kathleen Marie C.
Kathleen Marie C4 years ago

I like that "ourselves" was included. Thank you!


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Elizabeth Brawn
Elizabeth Brawn4 years ago

true

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Tanya W.
Tanya W4 years ago

Thanks.

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Deborah Vitek
Deborah Vitek5 years ago

Trust, that might be the most important

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Heidi H.
Past Member 5 years ago

So simple and so true. Thank you.

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