The Sound of Pleasure

Remember the hushed make out sessions of your youth. Rarely did we allow ourselves to sound out our pleasure lest our parents would hear. For many people, not wanting others to hear any evidence of our intimate encounters still carries some left over shame that keeps a heavy lid on our ability to experience our own pleasure decades later. After our parents, it was the neighbors, after the neighbors, it was the kids….

I am not talking about dirty words, although those certainly can ignite a passionate situation as well as clarify boundaries when necessary. Words come from the higher thinking function in our brains. Sounds of arousal like mmmmm, oooooh, and ahhhh actually help to turn the thinking brain off. Expressing your pleasure through your sound initiates from a much more primal place in your brain.

Think about the last time you ate something profoundly delicious and the sound of ooh and ahhh just rushed out of you as the taste melted in your mouth. Allowing the sound to accompany the experience actually made the taste even better and the flavor more memorable. This goes double for an intimate experience… allowing your sounds to accentuate the visceral pleasure makes the experience bigger and better.

Adding the power of sound to lovemaking has some magical qualities too. Sound in most basic form carries resonance in our body and communicates that directly to the bodies nearby. Many meditation techniques are based in the practice of resonant chanting, which attunes the energy field and body rhythms connecting us to ourselves and each other.

Connecting through sound frequency has the added benefit of turning off our critical minds. It is impossible to simultaneously express a deep ahhh and be thinking about your self doubts. The primal pleasure takes over and shuts off the ego part that is often trying to disrupt deep connection.

There is little room for miscommunication with our true arousal sounds. In fact there may not be a more direct feedback mechanism to your partner when s/he finds the magic spot and hears your voice raise an octave. Sound with out words invites your partner into they mystery of your arousal and in turn heats up their own arousal.

Experiment with sounds in life. Try it with something delicious first and see if the taste isn’t just a little bit better… then find a time and space where you can let your sound lead you with your lover and prepared to be amazed how deeply you resonate in love.

Disclaimer: The views expressed above are solely those of the author and may not reflect those of
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Neil A.

12:02PM PST on Feb 19, 2011

Yum, some women vocalise a lot, others not so much but it is individual as we are all different & turned on more by somethings at certain times, thus the situation & degree of arousal can affect ones "Sounds of Pleasure"!

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Fareena N.

12:04PM PST on Feb 1, 2011

thanks ever so much really great advise

Megan C.

9:06AM PST on Jan 31, 2011

I'm not going to lie. I date older men because they have their own place (I live with my sister), and I don't like non-vocal love making. I like when we communicate it makes the love making AWESOME!!!! People aren't mind readers, you have to tell them what you want and they have to tell you. I could care less about the neighbors. What are they going to do? Call the police, hahaha, I don't think so, tell them to put the television on if they don't like. lol :)

Charles W.

9:55PM PST on Jan 29, 2011

That's why I like living out in the country. Our nearest neighbor is over 1000 feet away. So we don't have to worry about keeping quiet. I love the sounds my lady makes!

Barbara E.

2:17PM PST on Jan 29, 2011

noted :)

Kristina S.

1:59PM PST on Jan 29, 2011

Ahh yes, I remember. So long now but yes I remember the oohs, mmms, and aahhhs. Wow, I need a man, haha, too bad you can't just go to Kmart and buy one...

Hartson D.

1:25PM PST on Jan 29, 2011

My exwife was not very vocal. but the occasional yes yes was an indication that I was hitting the right spot.

Klaus P.

11:43PM PST on Jan 28, 2011

My wife never utters a sound, but I think she enjoys, I see the look on her face and the smile, her brilliant smile, which tells me I have pleased her.

Sue K.

3:21PM PST on Jan 28, 2011

This is right on the mark.Very true.

Melissa C.

1:36PM PST on Jan 28, 2011

Hahaha. this is VERY relevant for me...lol