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The Spirit of Romance

The Spirit of Romance

In our culture we are not taught to see falling in love as a spiritual event, yet for centuries that was the accepted interpretation.

When the question “Where does love come from?” was asked, the universal answer was God. The lives of saints of every religion have demonstrated love in its spiritual dimension; at the same time the humblest person who fell in love also realized he was treading on sacred ground. Over the centuries, particularly in the West, the divine connection was lost.

In spiritual terms falling in love is an opening, an opportunity to step into the timeless and stay there, to learn the ways of spirit and bring them down to earth.

All openings are temporary – this is not a limitation specific to falling in love. The real question is, What should we do with the opening? The highest spiritual qualities – those of truth, faith, trust, and compassion – grow from the tiniest seeds of daily experience. How can we tend this fragile opening of the heart, nurture it until it develops into more substantial stages of growth?

We must examine romance, the first stage in love’s journey, as part of a timeless cycle that brings greater and greater knowledge of spiritual reality.

There are four distinct phases of romance: attraction, infatuation, courtship, and intimacy. Although not everyone can expect to experience them exactly the same way, all four naturally emerge once your feeling for someone else go beyond friendship to passionate attachment. These four phases of romance occur in a natural, linear sequence, but at the same time they come full circle.

Although it happens spontaneously, falling in love isn’t accidental – there are no accidents in the spiritual life, only patterns we haven’t yet recognized.

All love is based on the search for spirit.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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3:43AM PDT on May 27, 2015

This is a great post; it was very edifying. I look ahead in reading more of your work.

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1:15AM PST on Dec 26, 2012

Thank you :)

10:08AM PST on Dec 24, 2012

Agape :-)

1:05PM PST on Dec 16, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

11:16PM PST on Dec 10, 2012

Romance is so romantic, and when one is full in heart only love can give!!

4:48PM PST on Dec 8, 2012

Theres hope for me yet!! I cant wait to have this again in my life, it is a truely amazing feeling so very blissful

9:28PM PST on Dec 7, 2012

'Yep that's it..!! now I know why I like being in love, & hope to fall in-love again soon one-day ;-)

11:49AM PST on Dec 7, 2012

Thank you

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