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The Waiting Game

The Waiting Game

By Sherri Langburt, Intent.com

Question:

I am 32 and single. I have great things in my life – career, family, friends, house, car, dog. The problem is I find myself “waiting” for the next phase which, for me, feels like getting married and starting a family. I feel constant pressure and like time is ticking away which is making it hard for me to fully be happy and enjoy life. Any advice on how to get past this and just be happy in this moment?

Sherri’s Answer:

It may sound odd but as much as individuals seek happiness, the proposition of it can be daunting. It’s that very psychology that causes people to place self-imposed roadblocks when life is great. “If only I (was married, could lose weight, had money, etc),” is a conditional safety clause in that it keeps us free of risk and the unknown. Ultimately, these false expectations are impediments to our own happiness.

With so many great things in your life, it would be a shame for you to fall into this pattern of behavior. So rather than play “the waiting game,” do the things you like to do — the ones that terrify, thrill and excite you, now that you have the freedom to do them.

And when it comes to marriage, remember that everyone’s timing is different. If marriage is your goal, don’t forget that all those thing you do for yourself are an important part of who you are, and will take you one step closer to the person with whom you are meant to be matched.

So keep smiling and stop waiting!

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12:42PM PDT on Oct 19, 2014

I suppose the question is whether the one seeking advice thinks she should be married because of pressure, or is actually seeing marriage as a personal goal. Thanks.

5:46AM PDT on Mar 12, 2014

Our mind determines where we go

11:42PM PDT on Jul 28, 2013

Very positive

4:18AM PDT on Jul 26, 2013

Thanks

2:57AM PDT on Jul 15, 2013

Thanks for posting.

3:23AM PDT on May 24, 2013

Thank you :)

6:05PM PDT on Apr 1, 2013

what a crappy advise... you cant push what you need...if its marriage you cant marry whoever... and you wont get a baby at 50...the time IS ticking for her

8:09AM PDT on Mar 22, 2013

o_O

12:31AM PST on Feb 21, 2013

interesting article

9:11AM PST on Jan 19, 2013

thanks

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