The Waiting Game

By Sherri Langburt, Intent.com

Question:

I am 32 and single. I have great things in my life – career, family, friends, house, car, dog. The problem is I find myself “waiting” for the next phase which, for me, feels like getting married and starting a family. I feel constant pressure and like time is ticking away which is making it hard for me to fully be happy and enjoy life. Any advice on how to get past this and just be happy in this moment?

Sherri’s Answer:

It may sound odd but as much as individuals seek happiness, the proposition of it can be daunting. It’s that very psychology that causes people to place self-imposed roadblocks when life is great. “If only I (was married, could lose weight, had money, etc),” is a conditional safety clause in that it keeps us free of risk and the unknown. Ultimately, these false expectations are impediments to our own happiness.

With so many great things in your life, it would be a shame for you to fall into this pattern of behavior. So rather than play “the waiting game,” do the things you like to do — the ones that terrify, thrill and excite you, now that you have the freedom to do them.

And when it comes to marriage, remember that everyone’s timing is different. If marriage is your goal, don’t forget that all those thing you do for yourself are an important part of who you are, and will take you one step closer to the person with whom you are meant to be matched.

So keep smiling and stop waiting!

Disclaimer: The views expressed above are solely those of the author and may not reflect those of
Care2, Inc., its employees or advertisers.

Ewelina G.

6:05PM PDT on Apr 1, 2013

what a crappy advise... you cant push what you need...if its marriage you cant marry whoever... and you wont get a baby at 50...the time IS ticking for her

April 1
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Helen W.

8:09AM PDT on Mar 22, 2013

o_O

March 22
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Patricia H.

12:31AM PST on Feb 21, 2013

interesting article

February 21
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Ana P.

9:11AM PST on Jan 19, 2013

thanks

January 19
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paul m.

6:12AM PST on Jan 19, 2013

Noted...

Don S.

5:23PM PST on Nov 22, 2012

Time is ticking away for this woman, especially on her biological clock. But, she cannot just wait and hope things happen.

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Danuta W.

2:26AM PDT on Aug 16, 2012

Interesting, thanks for the info!

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Sam E M.

6:51AM PST on Feb 23, 2012

Place yourself in a position to be available for what you yearn for. Stop waiting, go out there and show all your positive traits, you'll soon attract a like-minded person if that's what you really want. In the meantime make the most of all the great things you enjoy already, not everybody has so much.