They Say I’m Overwhelming!
“So, what ARE we looking for in parameters with partnerships (personal and professional)? This really is important to me. And how do we change/affect the partnerships we are already in? I’ve been told repeatedly that I am ‘overwhelming’ so I need guidelines for behavior here!” – A member of one of my small groups
If you’re a Wild One who’s ever been told that you are “overwhelming” or “intense” or “scary” or fill in the blank, then this is for you…
You may be “overwhelming” or whatever to other people, specifically, in all of the ways that you probably already know about, the things that I’ve gone to great lengths to encourage you to celebrate being — high achieving, uber-productive, satellite thinker, creative, sexy, WHATEVER. This is not to be confused with you saying, “I AM overwhelming” or me saying that “You ARE overwhelming.”
I’m clarifying that other people may feel overwhelmed by working with someone of your particularly WILD nature.
(People are sometimes overwhelmed by working with me.)
This is about them, not you. It is simply their reaction to you.
Again, them, not you.
Because of this, you want people around you who are strong, really strong, like “million pounds of steel sunk firmly into the ocean floor so the boat can’t move” strong. This way, they will allow you to be you, without being sucked into the tornado of awesomeness that you are. They can be awesomely them and you can be awesomely you. And the rest of the world can just sit around and wonder WTF?
Can you tell I’m a little protective here? It’s because I love the Wildflowers and I’m so done with people telling you that you’re broken just because you’re not like the others.
Wildflower Wisdom: You are not a weed. You’re just a Wildflower planted in a rose garden.
Boom. Any questions?